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Immigration Agents Are Calling This Russian Immigrant A Hooker But She Says She Was Framed

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In a classic case of he said/she said, a young Russian immigrant who claims she's here for school is accusing her ex-boyfriend of putting personal pictures of her on an escort website to get revenge after she ended their affair.

But her ex, a Brooklyn-based dentist, is calling foul.

Ruzilya Khusnutdinova, 24, said 42-year-old dentist Vladimir Dranovsky, with whom she had a years-long relationship after meeting through a Russian dating website, helped her get a student visa and come to America in 2009, the New York Daily News reported Wednesday.

The relationship turned sour last year when Khusnutdinova called things off, prompting Dranovsky to post sexy pictures she had taken during a romantic vacation to an escort website, she claims in a recently filed lawsuit.

Khusnutdinova told the Daily News she had no idea about the ad until U.S. Immigration and Customs Enforcement officers knocked on her door and asked if she worked as a call girl.

“During the questioning that lasted several hours, she explained to the officers she was never engaged in prostitution, that she was a student, that she was a victim of abuse and harassment,” Khusnutdinova alleges in her complaint.

But, according to Dranovsky, Khusnutdinova is just trying to hide who she really is.

“She told me she was working for an escort service,” he told the Daily News. “Maybe she’s blaming me just to get out of it."

Khusnutdinova is suing for $16 million.

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25 Things You Should Know About Dating A Wall Streeter

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We always hear about these Wall Street dating horror stories.

There's the rude email cover letter from an investment manager begging for a second date, the alleged stalking bank analyst and the finance guy's spreadsheet comparing his online dating prospects, just to name a few of the more recent ones.

So we have to set some ground rules when it comes to dating the masters of the universe.  

That's why we've reached out to both male and female bankers, traders, analysts and hedge funders, etc. to create a definitive guide for dating on Wall Street.  

Just remember: There are always exceptions to every rule. 

Don't give out keys to your apartment.

Source: Skirt In Finance

"Don’t give your banker boyfriend the keys to your apartment.  You will forget you gave them to him after his lack of ever using them, and then when he comes over at 4 a.m. after an all nighter, you will end up calling 911 and/or pepper spraying him."




Be discreet about personal things.

Source: M/37/Sellside Tech/Chicago

"If you're gonna slip him the keys to your apartment at work, roll 'em up in a copy of the FT and plop them on his desk."




Make sure everyone knows you exist.

Source: Skirt in Finance

"For girls: 9 out of 10 of you are a complete secret to your banker boyfriend’s office... send treats to make your presence known...”




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10 Scientifically Proven Ways To Make Yourself Happier

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Few people go through life without wanting to be happier.

You may think happiness is out of your control, but believe it or not, there are a few scientifically proven ways to make yourself happier, and they're all things you can do proactively.

Spend money on other people.

Spending money on other people instead of yourself makes you feel happier, a study published in "Psychological Bulletin" found. 

The study concluded "the happiest people were the biggest givers, no matter what they earned," and always felt better donating to charities and giving to others than splurging on themselves.



Try something new.

People who go on adventures, try new experiences, and switch up their routines are generally happier, research has shown.

Trying new things also keeps motor function sharp and stimulates brain waves.



Expose yourself to more blue.

A study showed that exposing yourself to the color blue sent "self confidence soaring, cut stress, and boosts happiness."

Researchers from the University of Sussex found that when people saw blue, their brain waves showed increased happiness.

According to The Daily Mail, our love for blue comes from our ancestors "linking the color of the afternoon and evening sky to the feeling of a day well spent, and the prospect of a good night's sleep."



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Pippa Middleton Spotted Eating Dinner With A Hedge Fund CEO

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Besides Hurricane Sandy churning up the eastern seaboard, everyone on Wall Street (at least on the other side of the Atlantic) is talking about James Spencer Matthews.

The reason is Matthews, the CEO of London-based Eden Rock Capital Management, has been seen out to dinner a couple times with Pippa Middleton, the Daily Mail reports.

Here's what we know about Matthews: 

  • He's 37
  • He's the brother of Spencer Matthews, 24, who stars in scripted reality tv show Made In Chelsea.
  • He started Eden Rock in June of 2000.  
  • Before that, he worked at Nordic Options in London as a senior trader.  
  • Prior to Nordic Options, he worked with Spear Leeds & Kellogg. 

Middleton ended things with her financier beau Alex Loudon last fall. 

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Girlfriend Of UBS 'Rogue Trader' Made Him Reveal Losses

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kweko-adoboliUBS“rogue trader” Kweku Adoboli was persuaded by his girlfriend to admit to the multi-billion pound losses he had built up through unauthorised trading.

The investment banker sent his bosses an email revealing the extent of his losses after his girlfriend warned him not doing anything would “kill him”.

“In the end she was the strength,” he said. “She was the person who said to me 'Kweku, if you can’t do this, if you can’t fix this, then look within yourself and maybe go and tell someone. This is going to kill you. You can’t keep fighting this battle that you are clearly not winning’.”

The conversation took place in July 2011, a month before Mr Adoboli admitted to the trades.

Despite admitting to unauthorised trading that eventually cost the bank $2.3bn (£1.4bn), Mr Adoboli denied defrauding the bank. He told a jury at Southwark Crown Court that he “lost control” of his trading position in the maelstrom of the financial crisis. However, he said he never attempted to defraud the bank.

He claimed he never acted dishonestly, but was simply reacting to pressure applied by his bosses to make money.

The turning point in his career came when he was told to move from a negative to a positive view on the European banking sector, Adoboli claimed. He said that suddenly turned trades that had been money-making into loss-making positions, forcing him to double up his position to try to recoup losses.

Although he has admitted to concealing the extent of his trading, Mr Adoboli claims the practice was not a secret within the bank.

“I lost control,” he said. “The result of that loss of control was an increasing number of breaks [accounting problems], a more frantic trading activity, a less controlled decision-making process.”

Mr Adoboli was working on UBS’s $50bn exchange traded funds desk when the unauthorised trading took place. He denies two counts of fraud and four counts of false accounting. The case continues.

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Ladies, Helping Your Banker Boyfriend Insider Trade Is Not The Way To Get Him To Commit

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The insider trading trial of former Mizuho International Plc investment banker Thomas Ammann and his ex-girlfriends is still going on in the UK, and one of his ex's took the stand today, according to Bloomberg.

In case you haven't been following this case, Ammann plead guilty to using his two girlfriends, Jessica Mang and Christina Weckwerth, to trade on inside information about Canon (he was working on a deal involving the camera maker and OCE NV).

The women invested their own money and then gave him 50% of what they made on the trade, according to the prosecution.

Mang, a chiropractor, made over $103,000 from the trade, but the money wasn't her main motivation. At least, that's what she explained when she took the stand today.

From Bloomberg:

“He basically said that I show him that I trust him -- I invest the money, he still hadn’t specified how -- once that’s done, we’ll go on holiday in the Seychelles,” Mang said. “I thought that was a massive leap in commitment.”

She said Ammann told her if she didn’t do it, “he didn’t want to be with me anymore.”

She also said she thought "due diligence" was a cute nickname Ammann had for her, and that she didn't know what it was. Mang also said that he wanted her to invest so they could build a future together.

Ladies, you've been warned.

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Your Brain Knows Mr. Right From Mr. Wrong Instantly

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How do you know when you're attracted to a new face?

Thank your medial prefrontal cortex, a brain region now discovered to play a major role in romantic decision-making.

Different parts of this region, which sits near the front of the brain, make a snap judgment about physical attraction and about whether the person is Mr. or Ms. Right — all within milliseconds of seeing a new face, a new study from Ireland finds.

The research is the first to use real-world dating to examine how the brain makes fast romantic judgments.

To conduct the study, researchers recruited 78 women and 73 men, all heterosexual and single, from Trinity College Dublin to participate in a speed-dating event.

Like any typical speed-dating night, participants rotated around the room and chatted with one another for five minutes. After this meet-and-greet, they filled out forms indicating whom they'd like to see again.

But before the speed-dating event, 39 of the participants had their brains imaged. Using a functional magnetic resonance imaging machine (fMRI), researchers recorded the volunteers' brain activity as they saw pictures of the people they'd soon meet at the event. For each picture, the volunteers had a few seconds to rate, on a scale of 1 to 4, how much they would like to date that person. They also reported their physical attraction to each person and how likeable they thought each person was.

Speed-dating for science

In the next few days, the volunteers met face-to-face with the people in the pictures, during the speed-dating event.

People turned out to be pretty good at knowing who interested them based on photographs alone, the researchers found. Some 63 percent of the time, their initial, photograph-based interest in dating a person was backed up by their real decision after their five-minute speed date.

The dating event, incidentally, was all aboveboard, said Jeffrey Cooper, a psychology researcher who conducted the study while he was a postdoctoral student at Trinity College. Participants who "matched" with another study volunteer really did exchange phone numbers, and between 10 percent and 20 percent ended up getting in touch with each other later, Cooper told LiveScience.

'We joked quite a bit that we hoped there might be a wedding someday, but no invitations have come through yet," he said.

The brain on dating

More intriguing was what the brain was doing to make those judgments. The researchers found a link between one specific region of the medial prefrontal cortex, called the paracingulate cortex, and people's ultimate decisions about dating. This region buzzed with increased activity when volunteers saw photographs of the people they'd later say "yes" to.

"We think it is especially involved in comparing options against a whole bunch of other options, or some sort of standard," Cooper said.

Meanwhile, the ventromedial prefrontal cortex, which sits closer to the front of the head, became especially active when participants looked at faces they thought were attractive. But there was a catch: This region was most active when looking at faces that most people agreed were hot. Of course, people don't always agree on who looks good. When people saw a face that tripped their trigger but didn't get great ratings from others, a different region activated: the rostromedial prefrontal cortex, a segment of the medial prefrontal cortex located lower in the brain.

"That region in this moment may be doing something like evaluating not just 'Is this person a good catch?' but 'Is this person a good catch for me?'" Cooper said.

That role makes sense for the rostromedial region, he added, because the region is known to be very important in social decisions. Among the judgments this region makes is how similar someone else is to you. Given that people tend to find similar folks attractive as potential mates, the rostromedial prefrontal cortex could be saying, "Hey, this one matches us!"

There are two ways to look at the results, published in the Nov. 7 issue of the Journal of Neuroscience. One, Cooper said, is that we're pretty shallow. In the first few milliseconds of seeing a new face, we're evaluating physical attractiveness. But the rostromedial prefrontal cortex goes a bit deeper, very quickly asking, "Yeah, but are they compatible with me?"

"These really are separate processes," Cooper said. "But they really are both happening in your head as you make those initial evaluations."

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The 'Love Hormone' Keeps Monogamous Men Away From Sexy Ladies

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A hormone known as "the love hormone" prompts men in relationships to keep their distance from other women who are attractive, new research suggests.

Oxytocin, which is known to contribute to pair-bonding, encourages men to expand their personal "Don't come near me" bubble when around an attractive woman — but only when those men are in relationships, researchers found.

Single men were just as likely to get close to a pretty stranger whether or not they'd been dosed with oxytocin, according to a study published tomorrow (Nov. 14) in the Journal of Neuroscience.

"Previous animal research in prairie voles identified oxytocin as major key for monogamous fidelity in animals," study researcher Rene Hurlemann of the University of Bonn in Germany said in a statement. "Here we provide the first evidence that oxytocin may have a similar role for humans."

Bonding and dividing

Oxytocin helps keep female prairie voles bonded with their partners. In humans, oxytocin is known to facilitate initial bonding between romantic partners as well as between mothers and children. The hormone also has a dark side, or at least a complex one: It can make people less trusting of those they see as outsiders, actually boosting aggression in some situations. [The History of Human Aggression]

Because the hormone's effects are so dependent on social context, Hurlemann and his colleagues wanted to know if men dosed with a jolt of oxytocin would react differently to beautiful women depending on their relationship status. They recruited 86 heterosexual males and randomly assigned them to get a nasal spray of either oxytocin or a placebo with no effect.

Next, the men participated in experiments to gauge their comfort with unfamiliar but lovely ladies. In the first, the men either approached or were approached by a pretty female experimenter. The men had been told to hold their position, or stop her approach, at the distance where they felt comfortable conversing, establishing a personal bubble. In another experiment, involving a joystick, men saw either pleasant images (beautiful women or landscapes) or disturbing ones (mutilated body parts or dirt). When the image was pleasant, they had to pull the joystick toward them. When the image was unpleasant, they had to push the joystick away.

Keeping love alive

In both experiments, researchers found that relationship status mattered. Men dosed with oxytocin who had girlfriends or wives had bigger personal bubbles than other men. Single men and guys who got the placebo generally established themselves at about 20 to 24 inches (50 to 60 centimeters) away from the attractive experimenter. Oxytocin-dosed guys in relationships stayed about 28 to 30 inches (70 to 75 cm) away.

Guys in relationships who got the oxytocin dose were also slower than other men to respond to photographs of beautiful women in the joystick task, the researchers found.

Oxytocin-dosed men reported no less trust in the female experimenter than other guys did. Nor did oxytocin change men's personal bubbles when they were asked to approach a strange man rather than a strange woman. The findings suggest the result of oxytocin in paired-up guys is all about boosting fidelity.

"In monogamous prairie voles, we know that oxytocin plays an important role in the formation of the pair bond," Larry Young, an oxytocin researcher at Emory University who was not involved in the study, said in a statement. "This study suggests that the general role of oxytocin in promoting monogamous behavior is conserved from rodents to man."

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10 Things To Know To Get Along With Your New Boss

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It has been said there is but one constant, and that is change. Some live for it, while others fight it tooth and nail. Change can be at once exciting and frightening. Amazing how often those two words interconnect, isn’t it?

When that change involves a new supervisor, don’t fret. If you stay on the same job long enough, eventually you will experience this transition. Here are a few simple suggestions for those who embrace it and those not as likely to.

1. Be welcoming. Whether they are brand new to the company or were recently promoted from your own peer group, treat them as you would hope to be treated. Remember, this is a change for them as well, so put yourself in their shoes and help things get off on the right foot.

2. Be open-minded. They may do things a little different from what you’re used to, but someone decided they were what your department needed. Don’t be too quick to judge or criticize their managerial style. Given a chance they may delight you with the changes they make.

3. Don’t draw comparisons. Your new manager is not your old manager. Drawing unfair or unflattering comparisons between the two does little to smooth the transition. It does, however, prove a certain immaturity that most likely won’t be tolerated for long.

4. Lend a hand. Your office systems may be alien to them. Be willing to pitch in when needed. Being the “go-to” person for your new boss isn’t a bad thing.

5. Give them space. It may take a day or two for them to get comfortable with their new environment. Be available to answer questions, but keep your distance. The last thing any new manager needs is someone breathing down their necks asking a million personal questions or basically just being a pest. Don’t be ‘that’ guy or girl.

6. Don’t take advantage. This person is not your substitute teacher from high school. They are a highly trained professional charged with running your department. You might get away with two-hour lunches and coming in late for a day or two, but it will catch up to you and the fallout may be much worse than a trip to the principal’s office.

7. Save the flattery. Constantly fawning over your new boss will get you plenty of attention. However, most of it will be negative. Gain favor by being a solid team member, not by trying to win a popularity contest.

8. Be like the father of our country. Lying about your duties and skills will eventually be brought to light. Your new manager most likely has been prepped with information about their department so attempting to give yourself a lighter work schedule or more responsibilities in an attempt to impress them will backfire worse than a worn-out musket.

9. Don’t quit. A managerial change may cause you a certain amount of angst, but try to keep your emotions in check. Even a good change can seem painful at first. Give it time before making a decision you can’t reverse.

10. Don’t be resentful. If you feel you were qualified for this position and were passed over, showing your resentment will be the fastest way to be shown the door. The choice has been made, and if you value your current position, respect that decision. Your bad attitude won’t change anything except what people think of YOU.

Coming to grips with a change that affects your work environment can be one of the most trying times of your adult life. How you deal with it is up to you.

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These Monogamous Penguins Have Been Together For 16 Years

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A pair of Magellanic penguins have remained faithful to each other for 16 years, according to researchers who have been monitoring the birds and have shown they can travel up to 10,000 miles a year in their search for food and love.

It is a story of epic journeys and enduring love.

A pair of Magellanic penguins has been revealed as among the most faithful of couples in the animal kingdom.

Their relationship has spanned 16 years — almost their entire breeding life — despite spending long periods apart and each of them taking solo trips totalling 200,000 miles.

Yet each year they have returned to the same nest, and each other, to produce a new brood of chicks.

Now they have grown old together — the penguin’s natural lifespan means they normally die around 20 years after they start breeding.

Biologists have expressed surprise at the endurance of the couple’s relationship as most pairings are cut short by either the death of one of the penguins during their long sea journeys or a failure to successfully produce chicks, which are often killed by predators or hunger.

Research has revealed a tragic twist to Magellanic penguin relationships — if a couple ever fails to successfully hatch their chicks then they will “divorce,” leaving each other to find new partners.

The longest relationships between penguins previously seen by researchers have been between five and ten years before tragedy strikes and they fail to breed successfully.

The tale, which would rival any romantic novel, has emerged as part of a 30-year study of Magellanic penguins, one of the most abundant but poorly-understood flightless birds on the planet.

They spend their summer breeding season on the Patagonian coastline of southern Argentina, where researchers put metal identity bands on the flippers of 50,000 birds to follow their progress.

Satellite tracking conducted for the first time this year has added a new insight, revealing the enormous journeys they make each winter when they migrate individually to warmer waters off Brazil. They live, sleep and eat on the waves for up to six months, clocking up around 10,000 miles before returning in the spring to their old nest and the same partner.

“The bond they have is incredible really,” said Dr Pablo Garcia Borboroglu, a researcher at the National Research Council of Argentina who has been leading the research and president of the Global Penguin Society .

“It is unbelievable how far Magellanic penguins swim – and each breeding season they come back to the same nest and to the same partner.”

For most of the three-decade study, the penguins were monitored on the Argentinian beaches of Punta Tombo and Cabo Dos Bahias, but their activities while at sea remained a mystery. The researchers tried to follow the penguins at sea but would frequently lose track of them.

Now, however, new lightweight satellite positioning tags have been fitted to 15 birds - dubbed VIPs, or Very Important Penguins - allowing Dr Borboroglu and his colleagues to follow their movements in more detail.

The study has been carried out jointly with Dr Dee Boersma of the University of Washington, another expert in Magellanic penguins, who said it was an impressive feat for the penguin pair that have remained together for 16 years due to the risks their young face in the wild.

She said: “Many pairs stay together for five or even ten years. The fate of most penguin chicks is to die - they get eaten by predators or simply starve as their parents don’t bring them enough food.”

Magellanic penguins usually begin to breed from around the age of five years old for females and seven years old for males.

The penguins arrive at their nesting sites in September - spring in the southern hemisphere - and find their partners among the 100,000-strong colony by the distinctive sound of one another’s calls. Once reunited at their old nest, the birds groom each other to re-establish their bond.

After mating, the female typically lays two eggs. The parents take turns standing over the eggs while the other partner goes out to sea, swimming up to 100 miles a day in search of the fish and squid they feed on.

The eggs hatch after six weeks, then the parents spend another month together looking after the young. Once chicks are old enough to look after themselves, the penguins undertake an even more impressive journey that takes them up to 3,500 miles north, to their wintering area.

Dr Borboroglu said he hoped further analysis of the tag data would help reveal whether the penguins meet up in the ocean, and whether their routes put them at risk from shipping or oil production.

He revealed his research after delivering a lecture to the Whitley Fund for Nature in London, which has helped fund his studies after he won a Whitley Award in 2010 . He will set out his findings in a book to be published next year called Penguins: Natural History and Conservation.

Dr Borboroglu believes that penguins can help to provide a valuable indication of how healthy the oceans are as their populations dramatically vary according to fish numbers.

There are 18 penguin species, five of which are deemed to be endangered while six are classed as vulnerable.

Numbers of Magellanic penguins have dropped dramatically since the turn of the century with some colonies halving in the past 15 years due to threats from oil spills and falling fish numbers. There are thought to be around 1.2 million left in the world.

Happy families: other monogamous species

Albatross – Living for up to 80 years, these seabirds mate for life. They will wander the skies above the open oceans for years at a time before returning to their nests, usually on remote islands, to breed with the same partner.

French angel fish – These fish bond for all 15 years of their lives and will often not seek a new partner if one of them dies. They travel as couples, defending their territory and feeding side-by-side.

Prairie vole – Just five per cent of mammals are monogamous. These voles are among the select few that pair for life, but only live one year. Even after the female dies, the male will not look for a new partner.

Black vulture – These American scavengers, which live for an average of 30 years, show that looks are not important when mating for life. They have even been observed to attack other vultures that have strayed from their mates.

Kirk’s Dik-Dik – This dwarf African antelope forms monogamous pairs for life - around four years in the wild. Initially biologists believed this was because males seldom encounter more than one female, but recent research has shown that even when other single females are nearby, the males stay faithful.

Kings of the swingers: those that are less picky about their partners

Bonobos - these close relatives of chimpanzees are highly promiscuous. Living in small mixed-sex groups, they engage in more sexual liaisons than any other primate, often with members of their own families.

Bronze-winged jacana - the females of these tropical shorebirds maintain harems of males, laying many clutches of eggs for the males to tend. The females will often destroy eggs of competing females to have the opportunity to mate with a male.

Bottlenose dolphins - Dolphins mate both to reproduce and for pleasure, often as a form of social interaction. Their liaisons, however, are usually brief, lasting less than a minute.

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This Woman Has Been Involved With Two Inmates And Believes This Time It's Real

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She already had a terrible romantic experience with an inmate in California, but that didn't stop Hope from falling hard for JD, a man currently behind bars in Georgia. 

Hope met JD, whom she calls "real old-school, real Georgia" about a year ago through WriteAPrisoner.com.

(Hope's story is the sixth in our prison series. Click herehere, here, here, and here for the others. Hope and JD only wanted to be identified by their first names.)

Before Hope found her Prince Charming in JD, it sounds like she had to kiss a pretty nasty frog.

She was involved with a man incarcerated in California who told her she never did enough for him even though she moved in with his dying mother, said Hope, who's 48 and lives in Ohio.

But then, about a year ago, she met JD through WriteAPrisoner.com and the two have been involved ever since.

JD was arrested in 2005 for strong-armed robbery. He isn't expected to be released until 2020, so in the meantime the pair is developing their relationship remotely.

While the two haven't been able to meet in person yet, Hope hopes to be approved to visit JD in the next month or so. In the meantime, they're spending "a lot of time on the phone," Hope said.

"It too has been fantastic," she said.

Hope even traveled to Georgia to spend time with JD's family.

As for her family, which is comprised only of her two kids and a sister, they didn't support her relationship with the inmate in California but seem more accepting of her connection with JD.

"You know, whatever I want to do is OK with them, you know, just be careful," she said of her family's attitude. "Even my best friend, she's like 'you know, if you're good with it we've got your back. Do what you've got to do.""

Hope and JD have briefly discussed marriage and currently there are plans for Hope to move to Georgia before JD gets released.

Hope, who suffers from depression, said she feels so much better about herself now that she has JD in her life.

"I've got three ex-husbands and none of them ever spoke to me the way he has," Hope said of JD.

He respects her feelings and lets her lean on him during bouts of depression, Hope said.

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Getting Along With The In-Laws Makes Women More Likely To Divorce

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Getting along with the in-laws is never easy but it could be the secret to a long and happy marriage, according to new research.

Husbands who enjoy a good relationship with their in-laws have a 20 per cent higher chance of avoiding divorce, an American study has found.

However, the opposite is true for women. Wives who get on well with their in-laws are 20 per cent more likely to split up.

According to researchers at the University of Michigan, women who enjoy the company of their in-laws may become too involved with their husband's family, to the point where wives believe their in-laws are meddling.

Men do not share the same worries, which could explain the discrepancy between husbands and wives.

Dr Terri Orbuch, a psychologist and research professor who led the study, said it's a positive aspect of a relationship if men get on well with their in-laws because "these ties connect the husband to the wife".

However, women do not view relationships with in-laws in the same way, she said.

"Because relationships are so important to women, their identity as a wife and mother is central to their being," she said.

"They interpret what their in-laws say and do as interference into their identity as a spouse and parent."

She added that wives should be wary of sharing details of their marriages so that boundaries are kept in place.

The study at the University of Michigan's Institute for Social Research examined 373 same-race couples over a period of 26 years, beginning in 1986.

All the couples were aged between 25 and 37 and had been married for a year or less when the study began. Dr Orbuch has followed them throughout their years of marriage.

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Women Can Tell If Men Are Cheaters Just From One Look

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We are told not to judge a book by its cover, but new research indicates that sometimes, those inclinations are correct. Women can often tell if a man is likely to be a cheater from their face alone.

Men weren't able to see the same in women.

This is "the first evidence that faithfulness judgements, based solely on facial appearance, have a kernel of truth," the researchers write in the paper, published today, Dec. 4, in the journal Biology Letters. "It seems remarkable that such impressions have any accuracy at all, given how poor accuracy is even with extensive behavioral information."

The researchers asked university students (34 men and 34 women) to rate photographs of 101 male and 88 female faces from photos. They were asked to rate how masculine or feminine the faces were, and how likely they were to be a cheater.

The images were from a set created in 2005 by the researchers, led by Gillian Rhodes of the University of Western Australia, which included about half self-admitted cheaters.

From the pictures alone, women were relatively accurate (they were wrong 38 percent of the time) at determining if a man had been unfaithful in the past. This unfaithfulness was linked to how masculine a man's face was, but not to his attractiveness.

Men weren't able to accurately tell if the female photos were faces of cheaters, guessing wrong 77 percent of the time.

That wasn't the only thing they were wrong about. To the men a woman's "attractiveness and femininity were highly correlated with unfaithfulness ratings, and each other, indicating that men perceived attractive, feminine women as likely to be unfaithful. However, there was no evidence that they were," the researchers write.

Another recent study indicated that the masculinity of a man's face wasn't linked to testosterone levels, or two how strong their immune system is (two indicators of a good evolutionary mate). Since cheating is evolutionarily bad (the male's investment in potential offspring would be decreased, or absent) these subconscious readings of a man's face may be working on concert to help women pick good mates.

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Some CEOs Are Making A Big Mistake With Facebook

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I recently shared my thoughts on why CEOs need to embrace social media.

The post was inspired by a study on the social media habits of Fortune 500 CEOs, which showed an alarming absence of these powerful executives on the most popular social networks.

Today CEO.com released the findings of a follow up study that compares the social media habits of Inc. 500 CEOs against the Fortune 500 CEOs.

It shouldn’t come as a surprise that the CEOs of the smaller, fast-growth companies have a stronger social media presence than the leaders of the older, slower-growth companies, but the gap is, frankly, quite shocking.

CEO.com’s study revealed that Inc. 500 CEOs are 13 times more likely to be active on Twitter, 5.3 times more likely to be on Facebook, and three times more likely to be on LinkedIn than CEOs of America’s largest companies. That’s a huge disparity.

We could chalk it up to Fortune 500 CEOs being averse to change – the “if it ain’t broke, don’t fix it” mindset. But by not having a social media presence, these giants are handicapping themselves when it comes to agility and growth.

There are other lessons that go beyond social media that big-company CEOs can learn from smaller company CEOs. One lesson, in particular, is staying connected to the front lines of your business.

The Value of Staying Connected

When your company grows to a size where employees are in different buildings, states or countries it’s natural for a CEO to turn to the next person in the chain of command to find out what’s going on. Executive committees become the messengers for the state of the business. 

While this might seem like a great strategy for efficiency, it’s also the quickest path to becoming dangerously out of touch. By the time information gets to you, it has been through so many hands that it looks nothing like what you would have found if you went right to the source.

Why does this happen? In many cases, well-intentioned managers think they are doing you a favor by sanitizing and editing the information so it’s digestible. Sure, this is often helpful – but if it’s done too much, you’re probably not getting a very accurate read on your business.

I’ve also found that information gets presented in a way that paints the picture others think you want to see. As a result, you end up missing key details and insights from the real data that help you make better decisions. You also are in danger of missing important signals such as the ones that indicate if you might be losing a customer or missing a new opportunity.

Whether your company is 20,000 people strong or 200, you need stay communicating with the front lines. The person with the best information is not always going to be the one with the VP title. It might be that quiet developer in the corner who has some great ideas on how to improve your product—yet her opinion or ideas never get out of her department because her managers are focused on getting the next release out the door.

This is one reason why I also find social media so valuable. It’s the quickest distance between two points. However, as most leaders will agree, not all information is meant for sharing in public forums, so you have to go out and find it.

When I was at Omniture, we had a product guy named Brian Thaut. Brian knew more about our product than just about anyone else in the business. He didn’t have a fancy title, but he had product insights that were priceless in terms of understanding how we could better serve our customers and continue to add value to the experience we were delivering.

I knew when I talked to Brian I would get the unvarnished truth about how our product was performing, which gave me the insights to understand what new opportunities we had to grow.

At Domo, I’ve made it a point to seek out people across the company who, like Brian Thaut, have unmatched insights about different areas of the business. A great example of one of these people is one of Domo’s customer success managers, Kate Barlow. 

Each day she has conversations with customers, and every night she sends out a recap of the conversations from that day. I’ve made it a point to make sure I’m included on her FIRST distribution of reports. Her reports are raw notes sent in email. They haven’t been condensed into an executive brief and they are often rife with typos. And that’s perfectly okay with me.

The reports are full of real details on what customers are saying, where they have pain points and how they are using our product. I love having this information unfiltered and in real-time instead of waiting for a version that’s been cleaned up by someone else for my consumption. I devour the subtle details that might be edited out in a “final” report.

The data gives me food for thought on product development and partnership ideas. It also signals where we should invest in the business. But most importantly, these real-time notes let me know if we are making customers happy and giving them the value we promise.

In a sense, these reports are more important to me than any quantitative metrics because they provide the real color and insight that help me make more strategic decisions.

Domo is still a startup, so it’s pretty easy for me to find key people from the front lines like Kate. When we get to be a billion-dollar business, I’ll still want connections with people just like her.

To a certain extent, all big-company CEOs live in an ivory tower. But today’s leaders need to climb back into the trenches and communicate directly with their troops. You need to find your Brian Thauts and Kate Barlows wherever they live in your organization so you get a real read on your business. If you become comfortable with information that’s been manipulated to look good for your benefit, you are putting yourself and your company at a serious disadvantage.

Which brings me back to social media. Never, in the history of business, has it been easier to connect with your customers and employees to understand what they are truly thinking. Social media is another channel to get intelligence from the front lines. CEOs who embrace it will be the ones who create the most value and lead their companies to even greater heights. In that respect, the fortunes of business will favor corporate leaders who follow in the footsteps of small, fast-growth company CEOs.

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The Way We Form Sales Relationships Is Horribly Broken

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You’ve been told time and time again that sales success comes down to trust and relationships.

If buyers don’t trust you, they won’t buy from you. That is usually true. If you don’t have a relationship with the buyer, they won’t buy from you. That’s sometimes true.

But what’s ridiculous and misleading about this entire discussion is how you go about building trust and relationships.

The current relationship selling model is horribly broken.

You’ve been told that you need a packed schedule of lunch meetings, cocktail parties, and other “personal excursions” to convince clients that you’re a person they should do business with — the wine-and-dine model.

And certainly, likeability does matter in life. We all avoid jerks as often as we can.  But being likable isn’t a sales strategy. Neither is building relationships.

That’s because human beings are complicated creatures.

We like certain things at certain times for certain reasons. And then at a moment’s notice all of that can change.

What we think is certain is really uncertainty.

So working towards relationship as a primary sales strategy is unreliable. It’s just not a smart, predictable plan for success.

Your client’s uncertainty combined with your momentary uncertainty make for frustratingly unproductive efforts.

You being fake just adds to the chaos. The problem with most sales relationships is that the only exist as long as money exist.  The reason for the relationship is money. So is the motivation for maintaining the relationship.

It’s not genuine interest or empathy or companionship. It’s just a deal.

And that makes the uncertainty even more uncertain.

When your client thinks he has a relationship with you and you think you just have “a deal”, things can unravel pretty quickly.

No one likes to be taken advantage of. Adding money to the mix just makes that feeling worse.

That’s why relationship selling is broken. Because the relationships themselves are broken. Most of them were never really created in the first place.

Instead of trying to build relationships, work on being an empathetic person.

Genuinely care about those around you.

Realize the human intangibles that impact decision-making from everyone you meet.

You can keep trying to “fake it until you make it”. But that just means you’ll probably never end up “making it.”

Care more. That just works better.

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Going Into Business With Your Significant Other Can Lead To A Fuller, Happier Life

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In the past decade, more couples are going into business together than ever before.

Glenn Muske, an Oklahoma State University professor who has spent six years studying the topic, estimates that 3 million of the 22 million U.S. small businesses in 2000 were couple-owned.

Mariam Hawley and Jeffrey McIntyre, a married couple of thirty years recently published "You and Your Partner, Inc.", a book about the growing trend of entrepreneurial couples. 

What they found after conducting over 50 interviews with couples of all ages in all types of industries is that for the most part, the co-partnership actually strengthens their romances and businesses. 

Our interview with Hawley and McIntyre shed some light on the reasons for this emerging trend. Part of it is that corporate America sometimes stifles couples' options for the type of lifestyle they want to lead. Long hours and structured workplaces leave little time for them to spend together and less opportunity to express and use multiple parts of their personalities, skills and talents. 

Hawley explains, "In corporate America, while there are some pockets that really nourish the whole person and give space to the whole person, and some companies in particular that have put a fair amount of energy into doing that, it’s not the model across the board. If you want to take charge of your life, your whole life, then going into business for yourself as a couple gives you some opportunities to make sure your physical, emotional, and spiritual well-being is handled well, and to make sure you spend the kind of time you want with your kids."

Some people also want different lives than the ones their parents led. They're deciding to experiment with different lifestyles. Hawley says, "People also saw their parents just married to their work and don’t want that. So we’re looking for new ways to live life and live a whole life. And I think as a couple starting a business for yourselves, it’s one really appealing option. It's not the only one, and for some couples that would be the worst choice."

These changes are coming with changes in corporate culture and expectations of relationships. Hawley says people in their 20s and 30s look at their parents who worked for one company for thirty years and then got a gold watch. But, she points out, this type of work life is long gone.

When couples go into business together they have the advantage of knowing each other's skill sets, proclivities and interests, says Hawley. They can therefore put more parts of each other's talents and skills to use. Hawley says these strenghts really need to be honored by both people and at the same time, they need to be willing to hire others if neither partner has a particular skill needed for the business. 

But the one thing you need to be sure of if you decide to go into business with your significant other Hawley says, is that you enjoy spending a lot of time together. This seems obvious but a lot of couples value their separate careers and time spent apart. If that sounds like you, it's best to avoid an entrepreneurial partnership.

Hawley explains, "If you absolutely don’t enjoy spending a lot of time together or enjoy having a lot of conversation, then you probably ought not to be in business together. But couples that chose to be in business together or want to join in the other's business that the first had begun, are people who enjoy spending time together, communicate well, and know how to take care of themselves and support each other."

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8 Ways To Improve Your Relationship With Your Boss

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If you're looking for ways to create a stronger partnership with your workplace superiors, forget brown-nosing and don't worry about finding some elaborate gift. Instead, focus on these simple strategies:

1. Go the extra mile. Remember that your job description outlines the basic tasks and duties required to maintain employment. But doing the bare minimum is no way to impress your boss. Make it a habit to go over and beyond from time to time. Exceeding expectations is always a pleasant surprise, whether you're delivering a project ahead of schedule or volunteering to take on new responsibilities.

2. Anticipate needs. Don't wait to be told what to do. Engage your brain and be proactive. Look for predictable patterns in the workplace and take action early. Knowing you're on top of things helps make life easier and less stressful for your boss—he doesn't have to crack the whip to know you're getting the work done. When your boss asks you to put together a report, there's no better response than handing it over immediately and saying, "I thought you'd want that so I already did it." Bonus: You look like a mind reader.

3. Make improvements. The status quo doesn't always represent the best, most effective way of doing business. Put on your critical thinking cap and see if there are small improvements you can make that will have a big impact on your team or the organization as a whole. If you can tweak a process so it improves quality, reduces costs, or increases efficiency, your value will skyrocket—and you'll make your boss look good in the process.

4. Stay positive. Who needs another Negative Nancy around? No one. Most workplaces have too many as is. A positive, optimistic person can be like a ray of sunshine in a high-pressure environment. You don't have to go overboard here; even just a simple smile can help ease the tension. Soon, people will associate you with feeling good—and that's helpful for any relationship.

5. Bring solutions. Problems are unavoidable in most work environments and, yes, your boss is there to help you sort them out. But don't put all the work on his shoulders. When you encounter a challenge, take ownership of the situation and brainstorm solutions on your own before engaging your boss. If and when you do require his assistance, outline the options you've considered and be specific about what help you need from him. Remember, the easier you make life for your boss, the easier your life will be.

6. Get (a little) personal. The workplace doesn't have to be 100 percent professional 100 percent of the time. A little appropriate personal interaction reminds everyone that we're not just robots; we all have lives outside of work too. You and your boss probably have more in common than you even realize. Perhaps you share a favorite pastime or sports team. Maybe you have children in the same grade at school. Connecting on this kind of personal level strengthens the relationship and creates a deeper sense of authenticity. Just remember to commit important information to memory (like the name of his spouse and kids, for example) and keep the conversation light. Politics, religion, and sex remain off-limits.

7. Protect his time. Your boss is probably a pretty busy person. Don't waste his time and help prevent others from doing so as well. If you have a question, search for the answers on your own first. If you have the authority to make a decision, use your best judgment and make it. Don't pass things off to your boss if you have the ability to handle them. The more independent you can be—and the more you can prevent unproductive, unnecessary interruptions—the more useful you are.

8. Don't make him mediate. No boss likes to play mediator between his employees. If you're having an issue with a co-worker, do your best to handle it on your own. You're an adult, after all. Don't get your boss involved if you can help it. Little co-worker disputes can make all parties appear childish and petty, and baby sitting isn't a good use of your boss's time.

When you take the time to develop a strong relationship with your boss, your chances of getting that raise or landing the key role on that exciting new project go up exponentially. Your boss will see you as a prized asset to his team, and you'll enjoy all the rewards that go along with it.

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Meet The Wives Of Wall Street

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We already know about Paul Tudor Jones, Jamie Dimon and Steve Schwarzman because we read about them all time.

But we really don't know much about their wives at all, and that feels a little odd.

We've found that many of the hedge fund honchos, private equity titans and bank CEOs are married to some truly remarkable women.

During our research, we found a fashion designer, an economist, several entrepreneurs and philanthropists. 

Let's meet Wall Street's wives.

James Gorman's wife

Name: Penny Gorman (Pendleton Dedman)

About: She graduated from Smith College and worked in investment banking, according to a wedding announcement in the New York Times.

 



Jamie Dimon's wife

Name: Judith Dimon (Judith Ellen Kent)

About: Jamie Dimon and Judith met while they were at Harvard Business School.  They were married in 1983, according to a New York Times' wedding announcement. 

She's earned her bachelor's degree from Tulane University and her master's degree in organization psychology from Catholic University.  

The Dimons have three daughters -- Julia, Laura and Kara Leigh. 



Lloyd Blankfein's wife

Name: Laura Blankfein (Laura Susan Jacobs)

About: She graduated from the Fieldston School and magna cum laude from Barnard College, and received her law degree from Georgetown University, according to an engagement announcement in the New York Times. 

She's a former corporate lawyer and worked at Phillips, Nizer, Benjamin, Krim & Ballon in New York. 

The Blankfeins have three children -- Alex, Jonathan and Rachel. 



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The Oddest Animal Couples In Nature

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Sometimes friendship crosses species boundaries

An episode of Nature on PBS explores odd animal friendships, including animals that would normally attack each other in the wild, like a cheetah and a Labrador retriever.

"Each inter-species pair challenges the conventional wisdom that humans are the only species capable of feeling compassion and forming long-lasting friendships,"according to the documentary

The unlikely friendships are a sign that, like humans, animals have emotions.

Kasi, a male cheetah, and Mtani, a female Labrador retriever, have been raised together since they were just weeks old. They have grown to depend on one another and can be seen playing together at Busch Gardens in Florida.

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This male goose has partnered with a female tortoise for the last four years. He protects her, attacking anyone that gets too close, and always makes sure she eats enough before anyone else can get to the salad bar.

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Atlas, a Gibbon monkey, at Monkeyland Primate Sanctuary in South Africa is only interested in developing friendships with capuchins instead of monkeys of his own species. He even protects the juveniles while they eat.

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Twin Brothers Arrested For Allegedly Fighting Over Their Shared Girlfriend

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Two Connecticut brothers were arrested on New Year's Eve after they allegedly brawled over whose turn it was to have sex with their shared girlfriend.

Aric and Sean Hale, both 28, reportedly have an open relationship with an unnamed 27-year-old woman.

The trio was at a hotel in Manchester, Conn., on the holiday when Sean Hale asked his brother to leave the room so he could have sex with the woman, The Hartford Courant reported Thursday.

The brothers reportedly began fighting and trashing the hotel room after Aric Hale refused to leave.

Aric Hale was charged with two counts of third-degree assault, two counts of disorderly conduct, and one count of third-degree criminal mischief, according to the Courant.

His brother Sean Hale was charged with two counts of disorderly conduct and one count of third-degree criminal mischief.

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