The INSIDER Summary:

• Actress Blake Lively shared details with Glamour magazine about her relationship with husband Ryan Reynolds.
• She rejected media narratives about her life and said that it's not as "perfect" as people like to pretend it is. 
• Lively said that she and Reynolds have a real relationship and that one of the reasons it's healthy is it was based on friendship first. 

Actors Blake Lively and Ryan Reynolds seem like they have the perfect relationship.

They are frequently seen looking totally in love at movie premieres, at Taylor Swift's New Hampshire house, and in sweet Instagram posts. But Lively reminded everyone that the two are not perfect — because no relationship is. 

In an interview for September's Glamour magazine, Lively shared how frustrating it is to have a narrative about her relationship and her life pushed by the tabloids. 

"The night before an interview, I have complete anxiety: How is this person going to spin me? So when you read, 'Oh, she's got a perfect life,' or 'Her life is crumbling' — they pick narratives for everyone," she told the magazine. "And the narratives stick."

Lively joked that she loves Reynolds "most of the time"— especially when he's sharing outlandish tweets based on their family life. She also made it clear that all of the crazy things he says that involve his "daughter" are not actually real. Phew!

"He'll run them by me sometimes just to make me laugh," she recalled. "But oh, I'm so in love with him when he writes that stuff. I mean, I'm in love with him most of the time, but especially with that."

Lively told the magazine that she's hesitant to gush about how much she loves her husband sometimes because people will take that and push a narrative about her "perfect" life. 

"I said, 'Most of the time,' because if I say, 'I'm so in love with him all the time,' then you get that eye-rolling, 'Oh, her life is so great, she's so perfect,'" she explained. "So it's, like, my defense mechanism."

She and Reynolds may not have the perfect relationship, but it does sound like they do have healthy communication down pat. Lively shared that because they met and became close friends on the set of the "Green Lantern" more than a year before they began dating, they still treat each other like friends. 

"In other relationships, if something came up, I would call my girlfriends or my sister, and say, 'Hey, this is what he did — what should I do?' Where with him, we were friends for two years before we were ever dating," she said. "And I treat him like my girlfriend. I'm like, 'Hey, this happened. It upset me. This is how I feel. What do I do?' And he does the same for me. He treats me like his best buddy."

It's important to remember that celebrities have relationships just like everyone else, and like everyone else, they put their best foot forward on social media and what you see may not be how it is behind the scenes.

While Reynolds and Lively are the first to admit they're not the #relationshipgoals people try to say they are, it sounds like they have a genuine relationship that any couple could learn something from. 

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