The INSIDER Summary:
- Selena Gomez opened up about her relationship with The Weeknd.
- In a new interview with InStyle, she gushed about their healthy partnership and called him her "best friend."
- "I’ve wanted to be in a strong headspace for years, and I really wasn’t," Gomez said. "Before, I was so young and easily influenced, and I’d feel insecure. You want someone to add to your life, not to complete you, if that makes sense."
Selena Gomez has kept her relationship with singer The Weeknd (aka Abel Tesfaye) pretty under wraps. Although they attended the Met Gala together, they only make sly appearances on each others' social media.
But the singer got personal in an interview with InStyle for its September issue, speaking about how her new relationship has affected how she views partnership.
Gomez expressed her desire for a balanced life: she told the magazine that while she is happy with The Weeknd, she doesn't want to depend on her romantic life as a root for her happiness.
"I really am [happy]," she told the magazine. "It’s great. I don’t depend on one area of my life to make me happy. It’s really important for me to love and nourish my friends and family and to make sure that I never get influenced by a guy."
Gomez told InStyle that she feels that she is finally strong in her convictions and has an equal partnership — something she said was lacking in her past relationships. It's hard not to assume she's referencing her very high-profile relationship with singer Justin Bieber.
"I’ve wanted to be in a strong headspace for years, and I really wasn’t," Gomez revealed. "Before, I was so young and easily influenced, and I’d feel insecure. You want someone to add to your life, not to complete you, if that makes sense."
The "Fetish" singer said that her relationship now has shown her that she doesn't have to sacrifice other aspects of her life in order to have a happy love life.
"I’m lucky because he’s more of a best friend than anything else," Gomez said.
It's refreshing that Gomez has been so frank about the self-esteem issues that often come with dating — especially in the public eye. And after a public break-up and a few health scares, it's wonderful to hear that she feels so empowered by her partnership.
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