This 15-Minute Daily Ritual Will Transform Your Network

• Walked 10,000 steps per day within the company visiting people across ranks and divisions.
• Wrote 10-20 thank you cards per day to employees.

Why would a CEO with 20,000-plus employees take the time connect with a few dozen employees each day? Wouldn't that just be a drop in a bucket?

The answer comes down to a concept that Doug coined called Touchpoints. Doug realized that short moments with people could be exponentially powerful.

When Doug left Campbell Soup in 2009, the company was fundamentally and comprehensively transformed. Organic sales growth was 2X the industry growth rate. Total shareowner returns over the last eight years of his tenure was over four times greater than the overall S&P. In addition, over the last five years of his tenure, Campbell Soup was rated in the top ten socially responsible companies in the U.S.

Why Open Relationship Building Is Made For The 21st Century

Relationship building in the 21st century will be a lot different than it was in the 20th. Scaling your short one-on-one connections is and will continue to be critical for three reasons:

1. The benefit and ease of having a large, diverse network of weak ties is more than ever. What makes this so is the evolution of social media and social software, which help us meaningfully keep in touch with our tribe as well as co-create products and services together. For example, as entrepreneurs, people in our extended network, help us raise money through crowdfunding, recruit others by sharing our open positions, give feedback, and spread our work through rating, liking, commenting, and sharing on reputation platforms. After connecting with someone one-on-one, we can easily stay in touch at a mass level at no cost by creating content that connects with and adds value to people's lives.

2. What we do in private on a one-on-one basis scales to a larger audience more than ever. We now live in a networked public where it is easy for people to help build your online reputation by sharing positive experiences to their network. Therefore, connecting with people one-on-one at scale can have a large impact.

3. Micro communication is now a social norm. Two trends have made micro communication a social norm. First, on December 3, 1992, the first text message ever was sent. Today, tens of quadrillions of short messages are sent annually and this number is increasing exponentially. Secondly, over the last 20 years, there has been a dramatic shortening in attention span. In the past, a short message may have seemed curt and rude. Now, it is respectful and normal.

8 Steps To Building An Open Network

Step 1: Create A Sender Filter

What makes open relationship building unique is not its lack of filter. It is the type of filter.

Most people filter incoming communication in the moment.

The challenge of hearing from a stranger is that you don't know whether it makes sense to connect. If you do research on them, then you've already spent 5 minutes and you might as well have just responded "yes" right away. The same applies if you spend 5 minutes and emotional energy politely declining.

A sender filter puts the onus on the sender to filter themselves by:

• Making it clear what type of requests you're open to.

• Clearly explaining HOW people should contact you.

• Setting expectations on how you'll respond.

Cal Newport, a popular author and blogger, coined the term, sender filter. He takes this to an extreme by creating different emails for the different reasons people email him and then explaining the purpose for each email on his public contactpage. He doesn't create a separate email address for every possible reason someone could contact him; only for the reasons that are most important to him.

The power of the sender filter is that it saves you time and energy deciding how to respond to each email.

According to new research, your daily willpower is limited. Ultimately, you don't want to be using that willpower filtering people's incoming requests if you don't have to.

Clay Hebert is a serial entrepreneur and a crowdfunding expert. Most of the people who reach out to him want advice on how they can do a successful campaign. As more and more of the campaigns he advised became successful, more and more people started reaching out to him.

At some point, the number of people reaching out exceeded his capacity, so he created filters that put the onus on the person asking for help. Here are the filters he created:

Free content that answers FAQs. Clay finds himself answering the same questions over and over, so he created a series of articles and videos that cover the most common questions. He publishes them on his blog, CrowdfundingHacks and can quickly refer entrepreneurs to specific links when they inquire (productivity tip: Clay uses TextExpander to quickly send a set of links with only a few keystrokes).

Online pre-call survey. Clay has developed a simple survey that acts as an application to make sure the relationship is a fit. I personally ask folks one simple question, "What is the one thing you'd like to get out of the meeting?" This helps both of us be more purposeful with the call. Also, if you're not the right person, you can recommend another person or resource. Or if you know the answer right away, you can send an email instead.

Charging for his time via micro-consulting. After the requests became too numerous for him to handle during his downtime, Clay started charging for his time. At first, he used Clarity.fm, a community of experts who want to help but need a better way to scale the delivery of their expertise. Experts charge per minute and get rated. Now, Clay works with a small number of entrepreneurs and startups as an official crowdfunding and marketing advisor. Charging as a filter makes sure that Clay connects with the people who are the most committed. It also keeps meetings to the point.

Step 2: Say Yes To A 10-15 Minute Meeting Or Phone Call

A call doesn't have to be one hour long to be impactful. As I mentioned in a previous article, Kathy Calvin, President and CEO of the United Nations Foundation, has developed a 15-minute meeting policy where she takes meetings with people she wouldn't normally connect with. This exposes her to new networks while still maintaining her fast-paced schedule.

This policy has been extremely beneficial. One example is a 2005 meeting with Elizabeth Gore who was in her late twenties and had just returned from spending two years in a remote village in Bolivia with the Peace Corps. The meeting was in November. By March of the next year, Elizabeth joined the UN Foundation in a newly co-created position. Elizabeth went on to create the Foundation's largest campaigns, Nothing But Nets, Shot@Life, and Girl Up. Today, Elizabeth is the first-ever Resident Entrepreneur leading their work on innovation and entrepreneurship.

In some ways, email is less efficient than in-person. It can take a long time to respond to a good question. Furthermore, to respond in a helpful way often requires context.

With email, many of the relationship building and rapport parts are taken out. Telephone calls allow people to hear your tone and feel your energy.

If you're too busy for one-on-one calls, consider a standing group meeting. For example, Keith Ferrazzi, author of Never Eat Alone and founder of Ferrazzi Greenlight, organizes a monthly breakfast in Los Angeles where he lives. For this breakfast, Keith invites many of the people that wanted to meet him one-on-one. Keith also invites his family so that not only can he make connections with everyone, he can bring others together who are like-minded. Keith also organizes dinners when he's on the road.

Another route to go if you're too busy is to invite people to an event you're already going to. Saya Hillman, founder of Mac & Cheese Productions, uses this approach. In her words, "Then nothing extra is added to my schedule, they get the face-to-face time they wanted, and bonus, they get to meet other interesting people AND be entertained/educated."

Step 3: Setup Time Every Week To Take Calls During Downtimes

Everyday at 3:00pm, I drive 20 minutes to pick up my two children from school. I leave this time open for calls.

No matter how busy we all are, we all have downtimes during the day that probably add up to a few hours per week. By multi-tasking things we already do anyway and that have become automatic, we can connect with people without taking time away from anything else.

Here are a few examples of when I have downtime and set up calls:

• Cleaning. Working from home, I will clean up around the house.

• Walking. After many years of being sedentary, this year I made the commitment to walk 10,000 steps per day after learning about its health benefits. In order to accomplish this, I need to set aside an hour a day of walking. If you live in a city, perhaps you could walk to a meeting rather than take public transportation and have a call during that time.

• Driving. In addition to my daily commute, I like to set up calls while I'm driving to and from the airport, which is 45 minutes away from where I live.

Step 4: Use Scheduling Software To Set Up The Calls

The software you can use to setup calls is becoming increasingly sophisticated. Using the right software means you save 5-10 emails per meeting:

• Coordinate the call time/date (1-3 emails back-and-forth)

• Send out a confirmation email

• Send out an email asking what they want to get out of the call

• Send out a follow up email to thank them and make sure you're connected on social media

There are several free options that are helpful for setting up a call time/date, which also sync with Google Calendar including YouCanBook.Me and Assistant.to.

I personally recommend AppointmentCore because of it's many extended automation features. With AppointmentCore, it's very easy to send custom automated emails before and after each meeting or even automate a personal reminder text message like, "Hey Bob, I look forward to our chat in 20 minutes!" With the time saved sending those text messages and emails alone, the software pays for itself.

When people set up the meeting, you can customize your appointment scheduling software to ask them a few questions. At the very least, you can ask for:

• Their phone number

• The one thing they'd like to get out of the meeting

This information will save email back-and-forths and make sure that the meeting is efficient.

Step 5: Enjoy Yourself And Be Generous

Have you ever been on a call where somebody you look up to takes the call, but also makes it clear that they have more important things to do. Their tone of voice is muted and they give quick responses that indicate they're trying to end the conversation.

If you're going to take the time to do the call, you might as well make the most out of it and add as much value as possible while being as positive as possible.

By being direct upfront with your time availability, you don't have to worry about the call taking a long time.

Jayson Gaignard, a super connector and the founder of MastermindTalks, takes this principle to heart so much that his business card says it:

Step 6: Keep Track Of People's Questions

John Hall is the co-founder and CEO of Influence & Co. Influence & Co helps position individuals as industry influencers and thought leaders through high-quality content.

John keeps a list of the questions that people ask him via email, over the phone, and in-person. After answering those questions, he puts the question and his answer into a database. He then uses this database as a source of future in-depth articles on his Forbes column.

Once the article is written, he sends the article to new people when they ask him the related question.

Step 7: Be Ruthless On Whether Or Not To Have A Second Meeting

Jon Bischke, serial entrepreneur and founder of Entelo is open on the first connection, but then is more discerning, "I like to say yes a lot initially to new opportunities whether it is a quick coffee or a phone call. That opens up the opportunity for new things. That said, I'm a little more ruthless with second meetings. I think you have to be. During the initial meeting, I trust my gut and try to identify if this is someone I could see myself collaborating with 10, 20, or 30 years. It is not necessarily about immediate value."

Other indicators that will help you determine whether to invest more time: Are they prepared? Are they on time? Do they end on time? Do they show appreciation? Do they offer to help you?

Step 8: Set Up Paths To Stay Connected

If you hit it off with the individual, there are lots of ways to help deepen the relationship. A few paths that I've created are:

• Adding them to my 'close friends' list on Facebook.

• Putting them in the right bucket in my CRM, so I can easily connect with them when I'm in their city, invite them to a dinner I'm organizing, make introductions, send them relevant articles when I come across them, or just ping them every few months so we stay in touch.

Even if you can't collaborate for the next 10, 20, or 30 years, it still may make sense to stay connected. I like to follow up and encourage the person to follow me on social media and my newsletter so they can get my newest articles when they become available.

Also, depending on your goals, there might be ways to do micro collaborations. For example, as a writer, it's always nice to have an extra pair of eyes giving me feedback on titles and rough drafts of articles. These are the exact situations where a diverse perspective is helpful.

Take Action

As you've seen in this article, for most of us, it's possible to connect with many more people one-on-one without taking away time from other activities.

Imagine if you just did one of these 15-minute relationship building calls every day. Within a few years, you'd have 1,000+ people that you connected with. As Kevin Kelly, founder of Wired, discussed in his seminal blog post, 1,000 True Fans, this tribe can be the foundation of your career and life.

If you're looking to be proactive, go over to your social media site of choice and ask, "One of the things I appreciate the most in life are my relationships. How can I be helpful to you today?" You'll be surprised at what you hear back.

Michael Simmons writes at MichaelDSimmons.com and is cofounder of Empact. To receive his most popular articles, join his free newsletter.