Almost everyone has gone through at least one or two bad breakups in their lives. Most people, your family and/or friends give you the "just get over it” speech, assuming it's simply so easy to get over the person you've spent a lot of time with.
This can be made all the worse if he's someone you still have to see all the time, like a coworker, someone who has mutual friends with you or someone you just happen to run into all of the time.
Breaking up with someone you have to see every day or often can be quite the sticky situation. It takes away the whole idea of "out of sight out of mind,” which makes it that much more difficult to get over them.
I dated a guy for a few months that lived exactly two doors away from me. After we broke up, it was difficult seeing him leave for work in the morning, casually seeing him outside and even watching him bring other women into his home. It was one of the hardest things I have ever had to do.
Here's how to get over someone you see too often without losing your cool.
Take time to grieve the loss.
No, it's not a funeral, but you did lose someone. It's ok to cry or have feelings of hurt, disappointment, sadness, and frustration after a breakup. You're hurt because you cared for this person. You're disappointed because you thought the relationship would last. You're sad and frustrated because you cannot believe this happened to you.
Clinical sexologist Kristie Street told Marie Claire that she believes treating yourself with TLC (tender, love, and care) during this time is crucial.
Don't waste your emotional energy by telling yourself that you shouldn't feel this way or that you should just get over it,” she said. In the end, it's going to be ok. These feelings of sadness and disappointment will pass."
Prepare for the unexpected.
Imagine the most unexpected situations that may occur between the both of you. Accidentally running into each other at the local store, seeing each other in the break room, showing up to a mutual friends birthday party. You may or may not acknowledge each other but you will definitely see each other.
Under advice from professional matchmaker Simona Fusco"acknowledge the awkwardness.” Be prepared to see them in the most unexpected to places. Engage in conversation but maintain boundaries. Be smart, don't bring up the past and certainly don't lie about the present. No need to make up false stories to appear superior or have dug up dirt from the past that will leave one of you feeling hurt or worse, publicly crying.
Keep your composure.
Don't be the person that spazzes out in public when you see them or that makes everyone else around feel uncomfortable because you're uncomfortable. Don't let someone else or their actions take you out of your character, no matter how foolish they may act.
Keep it cute and act like you are unbothered, even if you happen to see them.
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