8 networking tips for people who hate networking

• Networking can be intimidating, whether you’re introverted, have social anxiety, or just simply don’t enjoy meeting new people.
• Being able to network and build new relationships is an important professional and life skill for success.
• Networking doesn’t have to be hard — here are tips to help you network through your dislike for networking.

Whether you’re introverted, someone who experiences social anxiety, or you simply hate networking, meeting new people in a professional context can be intimidating. But believe it or not, making a successful connection through networking doesn’t have to feel like work.

Here, two experts highlight their best networking tips to help you survive — and thrive — at your next networking opportunity.

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1. Reframe 'networking' in terms of the relationship

“First, stop calling it networking, which has the word ‘work’ in it,” said Michelle Tillis Lederman, executive trainer and author of “The 11 Laws of Likability.” She came up with the term “relationship networking,” which she said encompasses the part of networking that is simply about having conversations and making friends.

“If we can start to reframe it in our own minds that way, it doesn’t feel so forced," Lederman said. “It won’t feel like work, because you’re just being you.”

2. Set yourself up for success

“Everyone has different locations where they thrive or survive,” said Vanessa Van Edwards, behavioral investigator and author of “Captivate.” While some people prefer a big open room, others do better in a learning scenario, such as a classroom or conference.

Van Edwards suggests making a list of every place where you’re often asked to network, from a coffee shop or bar to post-meeting drinks or a client’s office. Then, split the list up into three columns: survive, neutral, and thrive. “Make sure you’re trying to only say yes to the ones that are either ‘neutral’ or ‘thrive.’ That way you’re setting yourself up right from the beginning to be more successful,” she said.

3. Recruit a friend

Bring a wingman or wingwoman who helps you be your best self, yet isn’t afraid to leave you alone. The best person for this job will show up at the same time as you so you can walk in together, get settled with you, and then help you divide and conquer, Van Edwards said. “Have a deal that if you meet someone interesting, you’re going to bring them over,” she added.