- There is a lot to think about when you are planning a wedding.
- You might not get to do everything you wanted or realized things you were missing on the big day.
- These are the things I would have done differently, having been through it.
Six months ago, I had my fairytale wedding. It was picturesque, filled with love, and ran smoothly. That magical day went better than I had ever imagined. But like most things in life, there were aspects I wish I had done differently in terms of the planning and how the actual wedding day was carried out.
Learning from my own bridal experience and in reading about wedding etiquette since being married, I've discovered there were a few things I didn't do that I wish I did. Most weren't a huge deal, but some things could've made those closest to me feel more loved during such a special time of life.
Here are a few things I would've done differently that might save you some mistakes in your own wedding endeavors.
I would have sent out thank you cards for my bridal shower before the wedding.
My bridal shower was one month before my wedding, which is pretty standard, but my entire engagement was only three months. Because of that, it was an extremely busy time. Sending out thank you notes had totally slipped my mind in the midst of finalizing the details of my wedding in that last month.
I ended up rushing out thank you cards a couple weeks after my honeymoon. It was not ideal since I was going to be sending another set of thank you notes to some of the same people just a few weeks later. Sending them out post-wedding just felt awkward and like I had under-appreciated my bridal shower guests.
I would have written a love letter to my husband-to-be before the wedding.
This is something that I actually learned about in watching "Jane the Virgin." Jane's minister advised the bride and groom to write a love letter to each other before the wedding expressing how they felt about each other. Later on in their marriage, when they were going through a rough time, they could look back at that letter to be reminded of their love.
Engagement really is such a special time to remember. Those feelings of longing for each other were only heightened for me and my fiancé when we were engaged. If we had expressed all of that in a letter, I can only imagine what a treasure it would've been to have to remember such a wonderful time in our lives.
I would have included my mom more in the wedding planning.
One of my biggest regrets during the wedding planning was not including my mother enough. Granted we live across the country from each other making it more of a challenge, but I wish I would've been more proactive in finding ways to make her feel more involved.
It was such a stressful three months that I was more focused on getting everything done efficiently and as quickly as possible which didn't necessarily allow for much time to ask for suggestions from my mom every step of the way. I know she would have appreciated if I had asked for more help from her, as it was hard for her to not be able to do much from far away.
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