A lot of men struggle with dating. Some strike out more often than not, while others find themselves moving from short-term relationship to short-term relationship.
But as it turns out, making some simple changes can help men become more successful in the dating arena.
This week on Reddit, a group of men shared the hurdles they had to overcome before they could become successful at dating. Here are some of the best responses.
They had to lower their expectations for first dates.
One reason why certain men are unsuccessful at dating is because their expectations are too high, particularly when it comes to first dates, according to Reddit poster RiggsBoson.
"Don't expect anything," RiggsBoson wrote. "If you go into any first date expecting one thing or another, you're setting yourself up for disappointment. Allow yourself to be surprised, and challenge yourself to welcome negative surprises as you welcome positive ones."
They had to "invest" in themselves.
It's often said that before someone can love you, you need to love yourself. And so, if you aren't taking care of yourself and it shows, it can be hard to attract a mate.
"Getting in shape, eating well, buying new clothes, etc. all cost money, and dating itself costs money, too," Reddit poster LEIFey wrote. "I had to come to terms that this was an investment, and that I wasn't going to see any dividends until I put some money, time, and effort into it."
They had to step out of their comfort zone.
For those who identify as introverts or are shy, it can be hard to feel comfortable with people you don't know. And, the idea of going to bars or clubs makes some of them break out in hives.
"If you only do what's comfortable you will never succeed with women,"2DFitness wrote. "Took me 6-12 months before approaching girls was 'natural' to me. I wouldn’t say you ever fully get over the anxiety but it ends up being mixed with excitement."
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