A man moved out of the country to ghost a woman he dated for 3 years — now she's his boss, and the internet is cringing

The INSIDER Summary:

• A man wrote into "Ask A Manager" asking for advice after an ex that he ghosted 10 years ago is now set to become his boss. 
• Allison Green, the author of the blog, advised him to look into finding another job. 
• The internet is totally freaking out about this man's actions. 

Breaking up is hard to do. And while it's best to break the news to your partner in person, lots of people go the more cowardly route of ghosting them, leaving it on a sticky note, or, you know, moving out and leaving the country without a trace.

That might seem crazy, but that's exactly what one man claims he did about 10 years ago to his ex who he calls "Sylvia." He wrote into the Ask A Manager blog (which we spotted on BuzzFeed) to get advice after he said he ghosted her after three years together because they wanted different things from the relationship. 

"Over the Christmas break, while she was visiting her family, I simply moved out and left the country," he wrote. "I took advantage of the fact that I accepted a job in other country and did not tell her about it. I simply wanted to avoid being untangled in a break-up drama."

The man proceeded to call his ex — who he said he had lived with for two years — "emotional," and expressed bewilderment that she contacted his friends and family after he had disappeared without a trace. As Alison Green, the author of Ask A Manager, pointed out, his ex probably thought he was dead.

This might seem like a case of an extremely horrible man who gets away unscathed, but this is where it gets interesting: A decade later, the man has just found out that "Sylvia" is going to be his boss at the school he works at. He asked Green for advice on whether or not he should tell Sylvia before she starts and Green was understandably shocked. 

Green advised him to have a conversation with his ex and warn her before she starts her new job and sees him there. Though he noted in his post that finding another job was not an option, she encouraged him to strongly consider it.

"I don't know that you can salvage this! It's not reasonable to ask Sylvia to manage someone who she has this history with," she wrote in part. "You can try and see what her take on it is, but I'd be prepared to have to move on, whatever that might look like for you. I get that it's going to be inconvenient — maybe even quite hard — but there may not be an alternative here."

While Green was taken aback by his post, people online were similarly flabbergasted and could not believe what was going on here. 

No word on what the question-asker is going to do about his job situation, but it's safe to say there are a ton of us that are dying to know and are rooting for this woman to tear him a new one. Take this as a warning — do the right thing and give your partner the closure of a real breakup. If you don't, the universe may have a funny sense of humor 10 years later.

You can read the full question and Green's response on Ask A Manager. 

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