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Cardi B and her fiancé were spotted kissing in public, confusing everyone who thought they broke up

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  • Cardi B and Migos rapper Offset got engaged in October. 
  • Since then, photos have surfaced that allegedly show Offset in bed with another woman.
  • Break-up rumors followed, but the "Bodak Yellow" rapper shut them down in a series of now-deleted tweets.
  • The couple was recently spotted cuddling and smooching in a 7/11 snack aisle.


Since bursting onto the scene with "Bodak Yellow," Cardi B has hardly shied away from the spotlight. But the rapper's love life has likely created more negative attention than she would have liked. Ever since photos surfaced in December that reportedly show her fianceé — fellow rapper Offset — in bed with another woman, Cardi B has been battling critics of their relationship.

Despite breakup rumors, however, the couple's engagement seems to be going strong. South West News Service (SWNS) reports that the couple was spotted smooching and snuggling in a 7/11 snack aisle yesterday.

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A bystander told SWNS that the young couple looked "very much in love."

"They were just doing what I thought were typical things that engaged people do, they were kissing and cuddling," the source said. 

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The photos surface a week after Cardi B defended her relationship status in a series of now-deleted tweets: "Why do I have to explain myself?" she wrote. "I don't ask ya why you still with that man that lives with his mom, that don't pay your bills … Since when you guys had perfect relationships?"

The "Bartier Cardi" rapper also addressed the cheating scandal in a comment on Instagram.

"No it's not right for a [n----] to cheat. But what you want me to do?" she wrote. "Start all over again and get cheated on again? This s--- happens to everyone ... People handle [their] relationships differently."

Although Cardi B seems intent on following her own instincts, regardless of rumors and public opinion, Offset is reportedly making a huge effort to win back her trust. He evengot her name tattooed on his neck.

#TSRTattz - Y’all feelin’ #offset ‘s new #CardiB tatt?

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Cheating is never a good look, but Cardi B is right in that nobody knows the nature of a relationship other than the two people involved.

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Michelle Williams is reportedly engaged after stepping out with a heart-shaped diamond ring

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  • Michelle Williams is reportedly engaged to financier Andrew Youmans, several unnamed sources confirmed to Us Weekly.
  • Williams' representatives told INSIDER they neither confirm nor deny this report.
  • Reports that the pair were dating first surfaced while Williams was shooting "All The Money In The World" in Rome.
  • Williams, an intensely private person, has been wearing a heart-shaped diamond ring on her ring finger for some time. This led many to speculate about a possible engagement.

Actor Michelle Williams is reportedly engaged to financier Andrew Youmans, Us Weekly reported. 

Williams has been wearing a heart-shaped diamond ring on her left hand ring finger for some time now. But a source close to Williams told E! News back on January 9, "It is very important to Michelle to keep her private life private and out of the press. She has been wearing a heart-shaped diamond ring for awhile but doesn't want to confirm or deny whether they are engaged."

Us Weekly cited multiple unnamed sources for the news. INSIDER reached out to Williams' representatives, who said that they have neither confirmed nor denied this story for any publication.

Reports first surfaced that Williams and Youmans were a couple when they were spotted in Rome together while Williams was filming "All the Money in the World," according to Us Weekly. The two have yet to make an official public appearance together. 

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Youmans has built a successful life for himself in the business world. He studied the Toyota Production System extensively and had research on TPS published by the Harvard School of Business. He founded the firm Yomo Consulting to help other companies utilize TPS methodologies before leaving the company in 2011. According to People magazine, Youmans is currently a business investor.

Williams and has kept a pretty low profile when it comes to her dating life. She was previously linked to actor Jason Segel, director Spike Jonze, and, of course, the late actor Heath Ledger, with whom she had her 12-year-old daughter Matilda. Williams is often spotted with her best friend and fellow actress Busy Phillips on the red carpet and has called her "the love of my life," according to Us Weekly. 

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Everything you need to know about Andrew Youmans, Michelle Williams' reported fiancé

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  • Michelle Williams is reportedly engaged to Andrew Youmans.
  • The two were first linked in July 2017, when they were photographed together in Rome during the filming of Williams' newest film, "All the Money in the World."
  • Youmans is a successful businessman and entrepreneur. 


Michelle Williams wore a heart-shaped diamond ring on her wedding finger to the 2018 Golden Globes. At the time, the actress told People it was simply "beautiful jewelry," but Williams has also donned the mysterious ring during a tropical getaway on New Year's Day and at the premiere of her highly publicized film, "All the Money in the World."

Although she has been famously private when it comes to her love life, the actress reportedly started dating financial consultant Andrew Youmans last summer. Now, Us Weekly reports that the two are engaged

"She wants a good guy and a stable family life," a source told the publication.

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A representative for Williams told INSIDER that she is "neither confirming or denying" the engagement. 

There may be plenty of uncertainty surrounding Williams' new leading man, but here is everything we know about Youmans right now.

Youmans was first spotted with Williams in July 2017.

According to People, the couple made their first public appearance strolling the streets of Rome while Williams was filming "All the Money in the World."

Though they have never attended an event together, the pair was recently photographed again in the Bahamas, where they rang in the new year with Williams' 12-year-old daughter Matilda. 

The financier has built a successful career in the business world.

Youmans graduated from two Ivy League universities — Dartmouth College and Harvard Business School — according to his profile on Handel Group. The profile labels him as an "Investor and Operations Management-Consultant."

In 1996, Youmans left his family's business, the manufacturing company Connecticut Spring. He founded his own firm, Yomo Consulting, and acted as the firm's president for 15 years before stepping down in 2011. 

More recently, Youmans has delved into entrepreneurial endeavors, according to his Handel Group profile.

He has teaching experience.

People reports that Youmans co-created and taught a class at the Stanford Graduate School of Business from 2015-2016. The second-year course focused on the Toyota Production System (TPS), which is a socio-technical system that combines Toyota's management philosophy and practices.

His post-grad research on TPS was eventually published by the Harvard School of Business.

Neither Youmans nor Williams have commented publicly on their relationship.

Until now, a source told Us Weekly that "Michelle was totally focused on giving Matilda the best upbringing possible."

"It took her a long time to get over Heath," another added.

Williams began dating actor Heath Ledger in 2005 and gave birth to their daughter later that year. Following Ledger's death from an accidental overdose in 2008, the "Brokeback Mountain" actress has kept her romantic and familial lives extremely private.

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These drawings capture what happens behind closed doors in relationships — and they reveal the beauty of our most private moments

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Los Angeles-based fine artist Amanda Oleander captures the intimate moments of everyday life in her drawings — from the ordinary to the embarrassing to the truly special.

Oleander, who has been drawing and painting since she was about four or five years old, rose to fame in 2015 as Periscope's first real star. That year, she racked up over 200,000 followers on the live streaming platform. Today, she has over 581,000 and counting, not to mention the 249,000 who follow her on Instagram.

 The 28-year-old artist told INSIDER that she is drawn to the moments "we never get to see," the moments that "can't really be documented because if they were, it would alter" how we act. "I'm enthralled by the way people behave behind closed doors," she said.

Take a closer look at some of Oleander's drawings below.

Sometimes, the most romantic milestones in a relationship come when you let your guard down around your partner.



These are the instances that stand out to Oleander, who frequently draws inspiration from her own relationship with her boyfriend, Joey Rudman.



Her artwork captures all the intimate moments that bring a couple closer together, like when you take care of a sick partner, even if you'll get sick, too.



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Selena Gomez called out Nick Jonas for being a bad date — and you'll squirm watching his reaction

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  • Nick Jonas recently appeared on a radio show segment that measured his heart rate while he answered questions.
  • His ex-girlfriend Selena Gomez appeared in a video message and made his heart rate rise when she reminded him of a bad date they had 10 years ago. 
  • Watch the "Close" singer try to keep his cool in the video below.


Nick Jonas and Selena Gomez have proven that it's possible to remain friends with an ex. The former Disney icons have gone on record praising each other as "incredibly smart,""amazing and inspiring," all the while confirming their enduring, platonic love

In a playful test of their friendship, Gomez showed up during Jonas' appearance on a British radio show to remind him of a particularly awkward date they went on 10 years ago.

The "Close" singer participated in a recurring segment on Nick Grimshaw's popular BBC radio show, in which celebrities are attached to a heart rate monitor. Grimshaw then asks the subject about events from their past — or enlists surprise guests to do so — and measures their heart rate. 

Gomez appeared in a video recording to tease her ex-beau about the first time she went to Central Park with him.

"Hello Nicholas, it's Selena Gomez," she began. "I would like to remind you of a time where we all went to Central Park together. It was definitely over 10 years ago. I was wondering if that brought up anything for you." 

While watching the video, Jonas' heart rate shot from 76 beats per minute (BPM) — a normal, resting rate — to 90 BPM. 

"This was at a time where my brothers and I were a boy band," he clarified, referring to the Jonas Brothers. "And we were very private about our relationship, and she was unhappy that her Central Park experience was ruined by the fact that I walked about 20 feet away from her. Even though they were taking pictures of us and obviously we were there together, I was like, 'It'd be better if we stood about 25 feet apart.' So it ruined her Central Park experience."

Jonas went on to explain that they visited the park with Gomez's best friend Taylor Swift and his brother Joe Jonas, who ended their relationship with an infamous phone call. Gomez and Swift walked together while the brothers blazed the trail far ahead.

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Jonas was also visited during the segment by the likes of his "Jumanji" co-star Jack Black, as well as his brother Joe via video recording.

Grimshaw also had the singer watch Miley Cyrus' "7 Things" music video from 2008, which was allegedly written about her relationship with Jonas.

"[Cyrus is] wearing a dog tag in this thing that I gave her when I was 14," Jonas said of the rumor. "I was actually kind of flattered, to be honest. It's there forever. And I know it's about me."

In fact, Demi Lovato confirmed on a "Carpool Karaoke" segment that her fellow tour mate bounced back and forth between Cyrus and Gomez when he was younger. 

It's nice to know that embarrassing memories from past relationships are painful for everybody, even celebrities.

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Khloe Kardashian shares the 'serious strategy' it took to hide her baby bump from the public

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  • Khloe Kardashian is expecting a baby in early April with boyfriend Tristan Thompson, but hid her pregnancy from the public for nearly six months.
  • The reality star recently took to her app to discuss her "stealth secrets" and reveal how she told Thompson about her pregnancy.
  • "I can't even believe I hid my bump for as long as I did."


The Kardashian family is known being open with fans, but Khloe Kardashian took a different approach during the first six months of her pregnancy. Rather than flaunt the news, she went to great lengths to hide her bump until making a pregnancy announcement via Instagram in December.

The "Revenge Body" creator recently took to her app to share some "stealth secrets" from her first two trimesters and tips for hiding a baby belly. 

"I can't even believe I hid my bump for as long as I did," she wrote. "It took a few styling sessions, serious strategy and a s---ton of courage, but it worked." 

Kardashian revealed that she wore billowy coats and held strategically placed accessories, like purses in front of her stomach, when going out in public. She also noted that "nothing is more distracting than a chic pattern" and a cinched waist with a flared, A-line hem is perfect for "hiding a small bulge."

"I went super girly for Kim's baby shower. Little did everyone know I'm expecting, too," she wrote. "[My dress] flows loosely at the exact right spot."

💜 Cherry Blossoms and Tea for baby number three 💜 #KKW

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The reality star addressed why she kept her pregnancy hidden for so long, saying that the worst part was keeping a "major secret" from her family.

"I'm with my sisters pretty much every single day, so it was hard to not be able to say why I was so sick or couldn't do certain things," she wrote. "[Tristan and I] wanted to tell everybody at one time, which made things even more tricky — how do you get all those people together in one room?! — but it was so amazing when we finally did!"

When it came to the public, however, Kardashian did not think hiding her pregnancy was, "as big of a deal."

"I believe there are certain things that need to be held private and for yourself," she wrote. "It was beautiful to have something that was just ours."

For a family whose life has been filmed for over a decade, it's understandable why Kardashian would want to keep such a personal, intimate experience private for as long as possible. However, now that the "Strong Looks Better Naked" author is officially in her third trimester, her bump would probably be difficult to hide.

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Kardashian's boyfriend, NBA star Tristan Thompson, has been "reassuring and confident about everything" throughout the pregnancy, according to a separate post. In fact, Kardashian wrote that Thompson intuitively knew she was pregnant before she even took a test.

"I actually had to FaceTime him to tell him. I was nervous and he was so excited," Kardashian wrote. "Of course, it's such a blessing and such an exciting thing — but I do believe your initial reaction is always nerves. I'm so blessed that Tristan has been beyond supportive!"

Kardashian said having an excited partner to act as a support system is "crucial," praising her boyfriend as an "angel."

❥ Mom and Dad ❥

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"This process is trying — physically and mentally — but Tristan has made everything as easy and beautiful as it can be! More than I could have imagined," she wrote. 

Fans of "Keeping Up With the Kardashians" will know that having a baby is a longstanding dream for the future mom, so it's heartwarming to know that she is enjoying both her pregnancy and relationship.

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There are 3 distinct types of narcissists — here's how to spot them

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  • Narcissistic personality disorder is one diagnosis, but there are three distinct types of narcissists.
  • People with the disorder are categorized based on how they act and treat others.
  • Some experts say that identifying a person's type of narcissism can make relationships with them possible, but others say it's best to stay well clear.


To be diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder, someone needs to express five of nine specific traits. People with the disorder are often characterized as having a lack of empathy, a grandiose view of themselves, and a need for admiration.

Though many follow similar patterns, such as love bombing their partners, gaslighting people, and discarding those they no longer have a use for, they can also behave very differently.

Many psychiatrists and therapists separate narcissists into three categories based on their actions: exhibitionist, closet, and toxic.

According to Elinor Greenberg, a therapist who wrote the book "Borderline, Narcissistic, and Schizoid Adaptations: The Pursuit of Love, Admiration, and Safety," a person's form of narcissism can depend on their upbringing.

Exhibitionist narcissists represent the stereotype

For example, exhibitionist — or grandiose — narcissists have the "look at me" mindset children often have.

Children generally can't conceive of their parents' problems, "so they don't have empathy that way," Greenberg said. "If you go through the stage with sufficient attention, then you grow out of it and get satisfied, and it's over."

But some people, she said, grow up in homes where children are encouraged to be narcissistic — for example, they may be told their family name makes them special and that they deserve success because it's "in your blood."

The exhibitionist is the stereotypical idea of a narcissist, said Shannon Thomas, a licensed clinical social worker who wrote "Healing from Hidden Abuse."

"They think they're amazing — they think themselves to be smarter, better-looking, more powerful than other people, and they pretty much believe it," she told Business Insider. "Even with their friends and peers, they believe themselves to be one step up."

Exhibitionist narcissists don't tend to be insecure, Thomas said. When they aren't bragging about themselves, they're putting down everyone else. They are often carelessly rude and cruel about people and tend to ignore or not even notice how others react to it.

Closet narcissists have different personas

Some people with narcissistic personality disorder may have grown up with another narcissist in the family competing with or discouraging them, Greenberg said, and they may give approval only when they are worshipped.

Closet — or covert — narcissists want to be special but are conflicted about it. Like exhibitionists, closet narcissists also feel incredibly entitled, but they are also much more insecure.

"A closet narcissist doesn't say, 'I am special,'" Greenberg said. "They point to something else — a person, a religion, a book, a dress designer — and they are special, so they feel special by association."

She added: "When someone feels special because they have a designer thing on and other people can tell, that's special by association. For closet narcissists, they usually have self-doubt, and they are looking for the person they can idealize."

They also tend to behave in a much more passive-aggressive way. For instance, they are likely to set their romantic partners up for frustration all the time. They may say they will do something but not do it, then get a kick out of other people's reactions.

"They do what they want to do when they want to do it," Thomas said. "And then they make themselves look like the victim."

Constantly saying one thing and doing another can make people close to a closet narcissist feel gaslighted, where they start to question reality and feel as if they're going crazy. The closet narcissist may start blaming their partner for things they didn't do, but the partner can end up believing it because their sense of the world has become so warped.

Whereas exhibitionist narcissists' behavior is fairly consistent, closet narcissists have different personas. They tend to act differently in certain situations — they may be charismatic and kind in public but abusive and cruel when they are with just their partner, who may feel even more confused.

Toxic narcissists crave chaos and destruction

Toxic — or malignant — narcissists take it a step further. Not only do they want the attention, but they also want everyone else to feel inferior. They tend to be sadistic and enjoy hurting other people, thriving on their fear.

"The toxic narcissist is like the evil queen in 'Snow White,'" Greenberg said. "When the mirror says Snow White is prettier than her, she decides to kill Snow White and keep her heart in a box."

Toxic narcissists find it entertaining to set people up and watch them fall, something Thomas calls an extra layer of sadistic behavior.

"It's bordering on that antisocial personality disorder coming out of narcissistic personality," she said. "Folks who are perfectly fine destroying careers of other people, basically fine with just imploding people emotionally, physically, and spiritually."

There tends to be a lot of chaos around a toxic narcissist, Thomas said, because they enjoy it and thrive on feeling that they have created havoc for someone else.

"Harmony is not their goal," she said. "We're worn out by it, but they actually gain energy through it. That's why we see them spinning different issues and different dramas with people. They always say, 'I hate drama,' but they're in the center of it every time."

Relationships with narcissists can be risky

People with narcissistic personality disorder lack object constancy, meaning that, for example, when they are angry with a partner, they can't see that in the context of the relationship and tend to display only hatred or a desire to hurt the partner.

This can make relationships with narcissists — whether romantic, familial, or professional — very draining.

Greenberg says it may be possible to maintain a relationship with a narcissist if you identify their type and how they function. Many relationship experts, however, say it's best to stay away altogether.

In the long run, it's your decision, but it's worth reading beforehand about what you may be getting yourself into.

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7 myths about sex that you need to stop believing

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Think back to your teenage years and all of the wild and just-not-true things you used to believe about sex. 

There seems to be an endless amount of myths and urban legends when it comes to sex. Unfortunately, these fabrications are what muddies up the water when it comes to helping couples with intimacy issues and they can stay with us into adulthood.

That’s why INSIDER reached out to a few experts to help debunk some of the more common sex myths.  

 

Myth: All orgasms feel the same — and they should be explosive.

Truth: Kait Scalisi, MPH, intimacy educator and founder ofPassionbyKait.com, told INSIDER that orgasms exist on a spectrum from whisper quiet to mind-blowing. "No sensation feels the same all the time," she said. Lots of factors play into how your body processes sensation, whether that's pleasure, pain, or anything else.



Myth: What you do during sex determines how good your sex life is.

Truth: "Most of what matters for sex has nothing to do with sex itself," Scalisi told INSIDER. Instead, she explained that it's about creating the right context for intimate, exciting, and fulfilling sex.

For most people, Scalisi said that context is high trust, low stress, and high affection. "By reducing the things in your life that turn you off, you're generally more easily able to enjoy the moment and find freedom in pleasure."



Myth: If you're aroused, you shouldn't need lubricant.

Truth: Needing more lubrication than your body produces doesn't mean you're not aroused.Dr. Ava Cadell, clinical sexologist and AASECT certified sex counselor, told INSIDER that a lot of people equate wetness with how turned on they are, but that’s not necessarily an accurate barometer.

"Your monthly cycle, pregnancy, illness, menopause, medications (such antihistamines and decongestants) can affect lubrication, no matter how much water you drink," she shared. Cadell even suggests lube when using condoms since latex doesn’t slide well even if you're naturally lubricated.



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I'm having a baby without getting married — here's what I wish people would understand

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  • Unmarried couples who have children are becoming a national trend.
  • My partner and I have chosen not to get married, though we're going to be parents.
  • Plenty of celebrity couples do it all the time.
  • Marriage does not guarantee a happy family.

I met my partner David on March 17, 2017, and we officially began dating in May. Our relationship can only be described as a ride that you never you want to get off of, thrilling, new, and unexpectedly addicting. We are both college graduates, and at that time we started dating I was starting graduate school at Columbia College in Chicago.

When in September, I started passing out, throwing up and having insatiable cravings. I knew it wasn’t just stress — something was off.

I went to Planned Parenthood and found out that I was pregnant. I told David that night and his response was, to me, unforeseen. He was ecstatic. This is another one of those moments in our relationship that I knew that I made the right choice by falling in love with him.

Following that conversation, before telling his parents, I had to tell my sister. She responded with "Are you going to tell mom?" I come from a single parent household. It's traditional — loving, but very traditional.  My mother just wanted what was best for us. I was very nervous to tell my mother because I knew her first response would be something about "marriage."

Since I come from a single parent household, marriage is really something that terrifies me. But I am also cognizant of society’s gaze when you have a child without having a husband. 

Despite that, we are not planning on getting married anytime soon.

It took us a long time to finally sit down and talk about it, but we just realized it's not for us right now. 

David and I love each other, we do. In our relationship, the subject of marriage has come up. But we talked about it happening down the line after I finished grad school and he finished grad school as well. We both want our first marriage to be our last marriage.

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The fact is that marriage is just not for everybody.

Marriage does not make people better parents. Moreover, marriage does not mean you are more of a responsible adult. It is something that people can choose to do. It should not be forced.

More and more people are choosing to agree with me. According to the census, the number of couples 50 and older who have chosen to live together without being married rose from 1.2 million in 2000 to 2.8 million in 2010.

Times have changed. We can all admit it: sex is great. A bunch of us are having sex — casual, committed, "50 Shades of Grey" sex, or just quickies — without being married. Why are we still shaming those who choose to have children out of wedlock when we know this to be true? Everyone has a right to choose, and some of us are choosing to be parents.

The pressure to marry is real, especially if you have a child together. But the pressure is slowly erasing as society learns that it is apart of the norm. 

We are not the only couple who are not married and are parents to beautiful children.

According to a PEW research study, millennials rated being a good parent as a top priority in 2010. In fact, 52% said it was one of the most important goals in their lives, even more than a successful marriage.

Moreover, in 2015 according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, more than 40% of births in 2015 were to unmarried mothers.

Plus, we all know a few celebrity couples that have children together who are not married. Kourtney Kardashian has had three children with ex-partner Scott Disick, Ryan Gosling and Eva Mendes have two daughters together, and Kurt Russell and Goldie Hawn have been together since 1983, they have a son together but never tied the knot. Though they don't have a child, Oprah and Stedman have been together for decades and have no intention of being married.

There is no right way to be a parent — there is the only way that you want to do it.

You can be in a long-term relationship with someone and never get married. Yes, you can still be happy in a relationship without being married. Similarly, there are couples who are married who choose to never have kids or who choose to adopt their children. People can plan to never have kids and then suddenly have them. Happiness is your choice.

I do not believe there are perfect people, therefore, there is no perfect marriage or relationship. There is only love, that I know for sure exists. This is what we, David and I, plan to give to our son — love.

David and I plan to spend the rest of our lives together and loving our son. We both know that getting married right now, to satisfy society and family, would not make us happy. Plus financially, it really is not the best move to make.

Either way, we will welcome our son into our lives together, promise to be in his life forever with our love for each other.

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Meghan Markle's whirlwind romance is the opposite of Kate Middleton's 10-year courtship — and it shows how different their marriages will be

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It's hard not to compare Meghan Markle— Prince Harry's new fianceé — to Prince William's wife Kate Middleton.

At least on the surface, the two royal courtships couldn't appear more different. Most notably, Markle and Prince Harry met in 2016, when they were both in their 30s. Just about a year later, they announced their engagement.

Middleton and Prince William, on the other hand, met in college. They didn't get engaged until 2010, five years after they graduated.

What's more, while Middleton is British, Prince Harry broke with tradition in some ways by choosing to spend his life with an American.

We asked two relationship experts to explain what these differences might mean for the two marriages, and for the two women's lives. Andrea Syrtash is the author of "He's Just Not Your Type (And That's a Good Thing): How to Find Love Where You Least Expect It" and the founder of Pregnantish.com. Rachel Sussman is a relationship therapist in New York City.

There's no saying what will transpire over the course of either relationship. But as Sussman said, "When you're aware of potential pitfalls, you can really work on the relationship and try to make sure that those don't happen."

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Prince William and Middleton have built a life together, having known each other since college. 'What's wonderful is that they have a history,' Syrtash said.



'They know so much about each other,' Sussman said of couples who met when they were young. 'They have a lot of the same friends. They have shared cultural references and memories.'



Prince Harry and Markle, on the other hand, met in their 30s, meaning they brought more wisdom and self-knowledge to their relationship. In fact, Markle has been married before.

 

 



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Olivia Munn texted Anna Faris to set the record straight about reports saying she was dating Chris Pratt

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  • Actress Olivia Munn is not dating Chris Pratt, despite reports saying otherwise.
  • Earlier this month, Munn sent a private text to Pratt's ex-wife, Anna Faris.
  • The message let Faris know that the reports were false.
  • Munn shared a screenshot of the text exchange on Instagram this weekend.
  • "Women respect and love each other a lot more than some people like to think," Munn wrote.

 

Actress Olivia Munn took to Instagram on Sunday in order to clear up reports about her datingChris Pratt. In a series of posts to her Instagram Story, Munn shared her thoughts on the false reporting and even posted a text exchange she had with Pratt's ex-wife Anna Faris.

"Not every woman is scorned and upset after a breakup," Munn wrote. "Not every woman is 'furious' at another woman for dating her ex."

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"So even if I was dating [Chris Pratt], some tabloids got me and [Anna Faris] all wrong," she continued. "Women respect and love each other a lot more than some people like to think."

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Then Munn posted a screenshot of a text exchange she had with Faris earlier in the month.

Here's the full text Munn wrote to Faris on January 4, according to the screenshot:

"Hey there! Sooo ... I would never respond to random tabloid stories, but since we know each other I wanted to reach out to you personally to tell you the story about me and Chris dating has 0% truth. 

I'm sure you already know it's not true, or maybe didn't care either way, but I just wanted to reach out personally to tell you it's not true. 

Anyway, hope you had an amazing holiday and an even better 2018."

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Faris replied to Munn with the following text:

"Hi!!!! Oh my god — this town is so f------ crazy — you are so sweet to text. I love you. Having said that if you were my new sister-in-law I would be thrilled! Let's please catch up soon."

Munn's Instagram story continued, saying her and Pratt would have a "horrible" couple nickname ("Crolivia, Prunn, Chrisivia, Olipratt").

Faris and Pratt filed for divorce in December 2017, after announcing their separation earlier in the year. Reports of a budding romance between Pratt and Munn began swirling in early January.

While Munn has privately denied the news back on January 4, she appears to have been prompted to publicly address the report after sites like Perez Hilton published new stories claiming her and Pratt were an item on Sunday morning.

But thanks to her new Instagram story (which came with the text message receipts to prove it), Munn is putting an end to these reports once and for all.

As for Faris, she's reportedly dating someone new herself. Read more about her new cinematographer beau here.

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Gwyneth Paltrow showed off her engagement ring this weekend — and it's a massive stunner

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  • Gwyneth Paltrow is newly engaged to writer and producer Brad Falchuk.
  • The Goop founder recently debuted her gorgeous engagement ring while presenting at the Producers Guild Awards.
  • The ring features a massive center stone with a deep blue hue. 


Gwyneth Paltrow stepped out for the first time since announcing her engagement to writer and producer Brad Falchuk, giving fans a first look at her engagement ring. 

The Goop founder attended the Producers Guild Awards on Saturday to present an award to Ryan Murphy, who co-created "Glee" and "American Horror Story" with Paltrow's fiancé. She also took the opportunity to debut her gorgeous engagement ring, which features a massive center stone with a deep blue hue

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Paltrow complimented her jewelry with a red Alex Perry dress and blue Christian Louboutin shoes, according to People. 

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Fans first got a look at the rock when the couple shared their happy news with a center spread in Goop magazine's Sex & Love issue. One photo even shows Paltrow embracing Falchuck with her left hand draped perfectly over his shoulder, offering a clear angle for ring appraisal.

It immediately appeared darker in color than traditional diamonds — but as the photos were printed in black and white, the gemstone's vivid color was unclear. 

Paltrow, who "consciously uncoupled" from Coldplay frontman Chris Martin in 2014, opened up about her relationship in the magazine's cover story. She calls Falchuk "the man I was meant to be with."

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9 signs your partner is falling out of love with you

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There are few things like knowing that the person you're with just wants to be with you. When you feel solid and reassured by the level of love and communication in your relationship. There's no worry or stress about getting ghosted or cheating and your only worry about your partner is whether or not they've noticed that you're actively building and expanding your wedding board on Pinterest.

But sometimes, things take a turn and all of that reassurance and security can go out the door. If something seems off, that's an issue. Your significant other is supposed to love you and make that clear with communication and action. You shouldn't be up at night wondering if your partner actually likes you or you wasted all of those highly-inspired pins on the wrong person.  

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They don't ask about you or your life.

Not only is this impolite, it's also a pretty clear, straightforward sign that someone's not really feeling you.

Your significant other should want to know how you're doing. They should ask you questions, maybe about your family, your job, or your beliefs, being sure to listen just as much as they speak. They don't have to be Barbara Walters, but they should maintain a genuine interest in getting to know you.

If you think they're at a loss for words, you can always spur the conversation or turn it into some sort of game. The key is interest, not so much the content or the topic. Seriously, it can be something that seems really boring, but as research has pointed out, "couples build intimacy through hundreds of very ordinary, mundane moments in which they attempt to make emotional connections." You've got to build somehow, even if it is just by asking someone's favorite color.



They avoid spending time with you.

Having some alone time is great. We all need a little bit of time to ourselves, but it shouldn't feel as though you're the only one in your relationship.

Research has found that the more time couples spend together, the happier they are. If your significant other either refuses to spend time with you or seems unhappy when you do spend time together, that's a big red flag.



They have no interest in meeting or hanging out with your family or friends, and don’t want you to meet theirs.

If you want them to meet your family or hang out with you and your friends on a Friday night and they refuse, they’re probably not in it for the long haul.

"If your partner doesn't introduce you to friends or family — and it's been six to 12 months or more of dating, they're manipulating your perception of them," relationship expert April Masini told INSIDER. "One of the best ways to get to know someone is to meet the people they're close to …”



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Dr. Ruth has interviewed thousands of people about their sex lives — and she gets the same 2 complaints over and over again

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  • Dr. Ruth Westheimer is a psychosexual therapist. She launched the public-radio program "Sexually Speaking" in 1981.
  • Since then, Westheimer says the most common questions she hears are about premature ejaculation in men and women with difficulties achieving orgasm.
  • Westheimer thinks the problems are typically psychological and not physical.


"It's so very rare to get a question that surprises me, though it happens."

So says Dr. Ruth Westheimer — better known as Dr. Ruth — in her 2015 memoir, "The Doctor Is In: Dr. Ruth on Love, Life, and Joie de Vivre," cowritten with Pierre A. Lehu.

Since she launched the public-radio program "Sexually Speaking" in 1981, Westheimer says she's been hearing questions about the same two topics over and over again: "premature ejaculation or women with difficulties reaching orgasm."

I spoke with Westheimer, now 89 years old, over the phone and she told me the only thing that's really changed is that "people are asking questions with more explicit vocabulary."

In "The Doctor Is In," Westheimer writes: "You might think that since I and other advice givers … have answered these questions over and over that everyone would know the answers and stop asking them." Westheimer suspects these questions keep coming up for two reasons.

One, "young people who begin having sex start out relatively clueless, and so there is a steady influx of new people looking for this information."

Two, "as long as someone's sex life seems to be working OK, they don't bother learning the finer points. But as soon as they run into a problem, since they're embarrassed to ask anyone else, they'll turn to someone like me."

Westheimer has said before that both premature ejaculation and difficulties achieving orgasm are typically psychological.

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In 2014, she tweeted: "Premature ejaculation is a learning difficulty. Guys can learn how to control when they ejaculate. Helps to have partner."

And in an interview with Glamour magazine, Westheimer said that difficulty achieving orgasm is rarely physical, and that "every woman can learn to have an orgasm." She recommended fantasizing during sex — without verbalizing what you're thinking about.

As for when to see a sex therapist, Westheimer told Motto: "Often men [experiencing premature ejaculation] who try, even those who read all about it and follow the proper procedures to the letter, end up failing. What they need is some coaching, someone like me to report back to and give them the confidence that they're on the right track."

Likewise, she told Motto, "Many women don't know that a key to reaching sexual satisfaction is to continue stimulation even through a lull in the action, so to speak. A sex therapist can help convince a woman not to give up."

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13 crucial pieces of relationship advice we learned from our parents

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21st century relationships are a minefield.

While you're already worrying about building a successful and genuine connection with someone you care about, you also have to maneuver past modern — and often cruel — dating trends such as ghosting and benching.

But not every relationship is destined to fail.

In an attempt to prove that love can prosper even in the modern day, Business Insider staff asked their parents for their number one piece of relationship advice — because who are you more likely to turn to in the throes of heartbreak than mum and dad?

The resulting advice — collated from parents that are married, in long-term relationships, and divorced — all seemed to fall into five categories: listening, being kind, understanding your self-worth, spending time together, and nurturing your connection.

Scroll on to discover the 13 pieces of crucial relationship advice we learned from our parents:

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Respect each other's space — and talk about things that matter.

Mandy, who has been married for 24 years, said: "Give each other space to be who you are and always try to talk about the stuff that matters — your hopes, dreams, and worries — not just the day-to-day things."



Never hide your emotions — and listen to your partner's.

"Always, always talk openly with your partner and be a good listener," said Lucy, who is divorced.

"Never hide emotions or bury what irritates or upsets you and why. You'll understand each other better if you talk honestly. Honest and open conversation builds trust and strengthens love."



Don't let animosity dwell.

"Never go to bed on an argument," said Andrea, who has been with her husband for 32 years.



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Empaths and narcissists make a 'toxic' partnership — here's why they're attracted to each other

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  • Empaths and narcissists are often drawn to each other.
  • This is because empaths have a lot of compassion and understanding to give, while narcissists thrive on someone worshipping them.
  • But this isn't a good match, because empaths tend to forgive everything the narcissist does.
  • This results in them being completely used and degraded, while the narcissist creates more and more chaos.


Opposites attract — or so we are told. While this rule has potential to broaden your horizons, people who are poles apart might be drawn together for all the wrong reasons.

Narcissists, for example, are attracted to people they will get the greatest use from. Often, this means they pursue and target empaths.

Empaths are the opposite of narcissists. While people with narcissistic personality disorder have no empathy, and thrive on the need for admiration, empaths are highly sensitive and in tune with other people's emotions.

Empaths are "emotional sponges," who can absorb feelings from other people very easily. This makes them them very attractive to narcissists, because they see someone who will fulfill their every need in a selfless way.

A 'toxic' attraction destined for disaster

Judith Orloff, a psychiatrist and author of "The Empath's Survival Guide," told Business Insider that this is a toxic attraction which is destined for disaster.

"What narcissists see in empaths is a giving, loving person who is going to try and be devoted to you and love you and listen to you," she said. "But unfortunately empaths are attracted to narcissists, because at first this is about a false self. Narcissists present a false self, where they can seem charming and intelligent, and even giving, until you don't do things their way, and then they get cold, withholding and punishing."

When a narcissist is trying to hook someone in, they will be loving and attentive, but their mask soon starts to slip. At the beginning they only see the good qualities, and believe the relationship will make them look good. This doesn't last because narcissists are full of contempt, and they see most people as below them. Once they start to notice their partner's flaws, they no longer idealise them, and they start to blame them for not being perfect.

It can sometimes take a while for the true colours to show, Orloff said, so she tells her clients to never fall in love with a narcissist. But this goes against an empath's instincts, as they believe they can fix people and heal anything with compassion.

"If only they just listened more, if only they could give more," said Orloff. "That is just not the case with a narcissist. It's so hard for many empaths to believe that somebody just doesn't have empathy, and that they can't heal the other person with their love."

Narcissists love drama and chaos

Shannon Thomas, a therapist and author of the book "Healing from Hidden Abuse," told Business Insider that empaths work hard for harmony, whereas narcissists are looking to do the opposite. They enjoy chaos, and like to know they can pull people's strings.

Narcissists manipulate empaths by stringing them along with intermittent hope. They will integrate compliments and kindness into their behaviour, making their victim believe that if they behave in the correct manner, they will get the loving person back who they once knew.

"Empathetic people have the tendency to understand that we're all human, we all have defects, and they're willing to be patient with someone else's personal growth," Thomas said. "Empathetic people will be very long suffering if a narcissist says 'I really want to change, I know I'm not perfect.' They have these moments where they sort of admit fault, but they never actually follow through or believe it."

This is simply a tactic narcissists use to reel their partner back in. With empaths, it is very effective, because they want to support their partner and help them grow. Ultimately, they are just being exploited further.

The empath can form a trauma bond

The push and pull nature of the narcissistic relationship can generate a trauma bond between the victim and the abuser, where it can feel almost impossible to leave the relationship, no matter how much damage it is doing.

"With empathy comes the ability and willingness to look at ourselves and look at our own faults, and that gets taken advantage of while the trauma bond is happening," Thomas said. "It becomes a cycle for an empath who has been trauma bonded because they start looking at themselves, and what do they need to do to change, and what do they need to do different, and what their character flaws are. It's the perfect set up, unfortunately."

It can be difficult to comprehend the fact your are in a narcissistic relationship at first, but there are many red flags you can look out for as you get to know each other better. Thomas said to keep yourself safe from narcissistic abuse, you should understand we are responsible for our own personal growth, and other people are responsible for theirs.

"When you meet people or are in relationships with them, you have to be very careful that you're not doing their work, or wanting their growth more than they do," she said. "You have to see what they actually do to get better."

Also, realise that boundaries are healthy for all relationships. For empaths, boundaries can feel harsh, but once they are aware of the strength of saying "no," they can protect themselves from people who are looking to take advantage of them.

"Empaths don't have to become hard or hard-hearted to be able to be healthy," Thomas said. "It's important to recognise that not everybody needs to be in our lives. We're going to come across people who we realise might not be healthy for us, and you have to be okay with letting them go."

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Dr. Ruth has interviewed thousands of people about their sex lives — and she says the most common relationship problem hasn't changed since the 1980s

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  • Ruth Westheimer, a psychosexual therapist, started the public-radio program "Sexually Speaking" in 1980.
  • Westheimer, widely known as Dr. Ruth, says too many people have unreasonably high expectations for their relationships and sex lives — and that it hasn't changed since the 1980s.
  • Westheimer emphasized the importance of being realistic while still being hopeful.


The world of sex and relationships has changed a lot since 1980 (see: Tinder).

And yet, in some ways, it's stayed very much the same.

I recently spoke with Ruth Westheimer — better known as Dr. Ruth — and she told me that as long as she's been a psychosexual therapist, people's expectations for their relationships have been too high.

Westheimer, 89, started the public-radio program "Sexually Speaking" in 1980, and it catapulted her to international fame. She's now an adjunct professor at Columbia University's Teachers College and the author of dozens of books, including, most recently, "Stay or Go: Dr. Ruth's Rules for Real Relationships."

Too many people have "expectations that cannot be met," Westheimer said, adding that those expectations often are influenced by media.

"Hollywood and the movies tell us that the stars have to be twinkling every night," Westheimer said. "That's not reality of life."

Westheimer's thoughts on tempering your expectations echo those of Diane Sollee, a marriage educator who was interviewed by Ellen McCarthy for the book "The Real Thing." McCarthy writes:

"[Sollee] wants couples who are getting ready to walk down the aisle to know — really know— that it will be hard. That there will be times when one or both of them want out and can barely stand the sight of each other. That they'll be bored, then frustrated, angry, and perhaps resentful."

These unattainable expectations play into people's sex lives as well. Westheimer said people tend to expect multiple orgasms or think that "a man can have an erection like you see in sexually explicit movies"— though she says she hears these complaints slightly less often today than she did 37 years ago.

It's crucial, she said, for people to be "sexually literate."

That said, Westheimer isn't advocating low expectations for relationships or sex lives. Her philosophy? It's important "to be realistic, but to still have hope."

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My 'sugar daddy' pays me $12,000 a month, and marriage is on the table

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  • A 33-year-old sugar baby met her current boyfriend on Arrangement.com and is now in an exclusive relationship with the 50-year-old man.
  • Between student loans, rent, and other expenses, her sugar daddy pays her about $12,000 a month.
  • The sugar dating world is a different experience for everyone.

 

In our first interview with a sugar baby, 32-year-old *Crystal Milan discussed what it was like to treat being a sugar baby like a job. But obviously, some people do choose the romance side of sugar dating — like Milan's friend, Gail, who introduced her to the scene.

Here, we chat with the 33-year-old who met her current boyfriend on Arrangement.com — and is now in an exclusive relationship. Oh, and she makes $12,000 a month.

This interview is part two of our series about sugar babies. It has been edited and condensed for clarity. *Names have been changed.

How long have you been a sugar baby?

"Oh my gosh, I've been in the sugar dating scene for about 5 years. I moved to Atlanta to be a producer, but I wasn't making that much money, and it was hard for me to make friends. It was also hard to find any good guys in the dating scene. I don't even know if Tinder was around then, but the quality of people just wasn't what I wanted.

I heard about the sugar baby scene through the grapevine and through some articles, so I thought I'd give it a try. I went into it originally thinking that I would find someone to hang out with, and it might turn into something else or help my network. In the end, though, I was going into it for companionship, to find a potential husband or suitor."

Did that work out for you?

"It worked out really well for me. I'm in a committed relationship at this point with one gentleman, and it's been interesting and beneficial for me."

Wait, you're in a committed relationship? How did that happen?

"My current arrangement is with a divorcé who is a little older; he's almost 50. We started seeing each other two years ago, so our arrangement has changed over time. He was going through his divorce at the beginning, but after a few months of being together, it became a relationship. There are no other romantic partners involved on either end.

I went into this not knowing what the endgame would be, but now I'm like, this is the man I think I'm going to marry. He has a kid, and his kid and his ex-wife know me, but it was never presented as, 'This is my sugar baby, I'm her sugar daddy.'"

How did that first conversation on exclusivity go?

"I was the one who initiated it, actually. I started really falling for him, and I was seeing him so often and doing so much with him. I casually asked what he thought about making this an exclusive arrangement, or whether he could see us getting out of this industry and becoming a more traditional relationship. We thought about it for a couple months, thought about what it would mean to us, and how much we were invested in each other. Both of us were hesitant at first — our relationship was created through these sugar dating websites, but we really talked about it, and ultimately agreed on it.

In terms of sex and emotional attachment, I'm just with that one person, but part of our agreement is that I'm able to go on dates with other people, to expand my network and career. He sees going on dates as my job, and for me, I'm just trying to make sure I can pay my bills and have the lifestyle I want to live. I don't really want him to go on any other dates right now, but it's fine. He's allowed to, but I'm assuming if our relationship were to progress to an engagement, we would both stop dating. We talk about marriage a lot, and I think he's also ready for that when the time is right."

Do you refer to him as your boyfriend?

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"I do think of him as my boyfriend and introduce him to people as my boyfriend and he calls me his girlfriend to his friends. But when I am going on other dates with sugar daddies I do not refer to him as my boyfriend. I don't try to get that personal with them at that level. Some of the arrangements even require you to play that part, you know? That you're theirs for the time being. And that's fine."

So what else is a part of your agreement?

"In my current relationship, our arrangement is that he pays for my rent, my leftover student loans, gifts, and trips. So currently, he probably gives me around $12,000 a month for living expenses. Even though we live together, I still have a separate apartment so that's $2,700 a month for a 1-bedroom in Atlanta. My student loans I'm paying upwards of $2,000 a month because I'm really trying to pay them off. And I do save a part of it, and I'm trying to get involved in the stock market and look at options there for how to put money into retirement. With any relationship, whether it be through a sugar dating site or a traditional relationship, I think it's important to make sure you secure yourself."

What do you normally spend money on?

"By myself, I spend money on things for other people: wedding gifts for friends, presents for my parents or my sister. I spend money on electronics I guess; I get those quite frequently by myself — new Apple watches stuff like that. I'm really invested in networking and communications so I look at those things as necessary."

Tell me about your past arrangements.

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"My first arrangement was with another man. He was a doctor and he was a bit older, in his mid-30s. He came from money, so we did a lot of fundraisers and galas together. We were both allowed to see other people, and we were together for maybe 6 months. Then it started to feel like a commitment rather than something that was fun, so we both agreed to end it and wished each other well.

One arrangement was strictly about being a companion. Dinner twice a week — one Tuesday, one Thursday — and never on weekends. He was married, and his wife knew I was there to just talk. Honestly, I think he just wanted to chat with someone who wasn't involved in his life. We would get dinner, have some awesome meals at the best restaurants, talk about whatever, and he would cover my dinners and pay for my rent in exchange for this companionship. The relationship ended, likely because his wife was probably tired of that. I can't say for certain, but I can assume.

The inverse of my current relationship was an arrangement with a man that was strictly for sex. He was single, and he wanted to explore different things sexually. It was never weird or outside our comfort zones — we would always discuss and agree beforehand. He never actually gave me any kind of money, but he would buy me things like bags, shoes, clothes, and trips for me and a girlfriend to go to Miami for a weekend. He would treat me in different ways."

What is your process when meeting a potential sugar daddy for the first time?

"I always do an initial meeting over drinks and dinner to get to know them a little bit more. If we decide we're going to continue to see each other, I have another casual meeting, and the third time we engage, I have an in-person conversation about what we feel comfortable doing. With arrangements, all it comes down to is what you're providing me, what I can provide you, and what's off limits."

What were your own rules when navigating the scene in the earlier years?

"I had strict rules for myself that I wouldn't just sleep with people. I didn't want to be caught in that scene. I would go on dates with people and I would make sure I felt comfortable with them before escalating it to anything romantic. If it was going to get romantic, I would always first decide how much of myself I was willing to give to this person.

There were certain times when people expected to go out to nightclubs and hookup, but I was never really comfortable with that. There were also people who asked for threesomes, which I said no to. But there were arrangements I've had that were involved sexually, and I'm not ashamed of that at all. Those arrangements felt very good to me, and they were positive experiences. What we wanted to do would be discussed up front to avoid a situation where someone might get hurt, or someone wasn't comfortable."

Do you have what you consider a going "rate"?

"Not really. This might sound horrible but yes, there have been some arrangements where I didn't connect with them on a personal level, and I'm hanging out with them, and I might expect something, but there was never a moment where I'm like, this is how much my rate is.

It just varies so much. I've had people pay my rent. I've received a lot of bags and shoes and whatnot. I've definitely re-sold or gifted a lot of those, too. There's a lot of jewelry, which I love, so I hang onto that stuff because I love all of that. The most extravagant gift was probably a private plane that I could use whenever I wanted, I just had to tell the guy when I wanted it and where I wanted to go. I used it to travel to California, Chicago, and New York. We went to Mexico a few times, but it was mostly domestic, like Vail, Austin, quick trips like that.

Even now, the amount of money with my boyfriend was never fully discussed. It started with gifts and trips and clothing and dinners and all of a sudden it was, 'Well let me pay your rent and you can live more comfortably. Let me pay your student loans so you can live more comfortably.'

How much have you made over the years?

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"Over the years, I've probably made a couple hundred thousand dollars reselling things. We're talking Cartier bracelets and Tiffany diamonds, and some expensive items I didn't need or didn't want to hang onto. And I do pay taxes on what I make in sugar dating. I have an accountant who handles all of that just to make sure I don't ever get in trouble with the IRS. I do freelance PR, social media, and content management stuff too, so a lot of this money is just part of income."

How much did you put on your taxes last year?

"I'm not comfortable sharing that."

Would you say this is the most you've ever made, though?

"Yes. Right now is my peak, in terms of cash flow. I get approximately $12,000 to $15,000 a month."

So what does a typical week look like for you?

"A typical week for me involves working out. I try to be involved in the community — I love animals so I'm involved in some of the local organizations like animal rescue. I'm also a part of a few professional networking organizations so I go listen to panels. Almost every single evening is spent with my current partner, whether it's dinners at home or doing something for his business, being a guest at those events. I try to take classes, learn more Photoshop skills, things I can do for an actual career when and if this ends and we get married. I'm trying to continue learning and continue being involved."

What should someone expect going into the sugar dating world?

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"As a sugar baby, you're definitely going to go out to eat. You're going to be treated to a lot of meals, a lot of drinks, and a lot of art events. Concerts, art openings, things like that. Not everyone travels because not everyone wants to, but you can. And then there's the pampering that people get pretty frequently — blowouts, massages, days at the spa. As a woman, the best way to put it is that you're being treated like a princess. If you want certain things and they're okay with giving them, you can get them. You just have to ask for it.

That's why I feel like this isn't that different from a regular relationship. The only difference is that it's expected that you ask for these things, and it's not crass or inappropriate."

Well, that is a big difference...

"I guess if you were in a relationship, would you ask your boyfriend to pay your rent? Probably not, unless you were hard up for cash or you had been with him for a while. So this is just a little more open."

In the last interview, there were a lot of people who definitely consider this sex work and had a lot of opinions...

"I don't consider it sex work. These people aren't prostitutes. It's just a new way of doing things. It's just a new way of trying things out and not everybody is sexual and not everybody is romantically involved. Sometimes, it's just keeping someone company. I've had arrangements and I'm currently in a few that don't have any type of romantic engagement.

I think that if someone does consider this sex work, I'd want to figure out what makes it different from going out to dinner with a man, having a man pay for dinner, and then sleeping with him and never seeing him again afterward. What's the difference? To me, those lines are very fine.

I personally think everyone should be able to do what they want to do within their own boundaries, as long as everyone involved is comfortable and consenting. Come on. People want company, people want to be wanted. and if this is the way that they want to do, let them do it."

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Thousands of people are responding to this woman's ultimate ghosting story — because she did the right thing

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  • "Ghosting" is disappearing without a trace from someone you were dating.
  • It's normally thought of as the cowardly thing to do, but one Reddit user has changed the game.
  • She told the subreddit r/Confession about how she ghosted her boyfriend of five years, and everyone is on board with it.


Ghosting can happen to anyone. In fact, a reported 80% of millennials have had someone they were dating completely disappear on them without a trace.

The ghosting scale ranges from the just-about-acceptable — when you've been on one date and aren't really feeling it — to the downright cruel — ignoring someone's texts and calls when you've been seeing them for a while.

Either way, it's the coward's way out of an awkward situation, so it might be hard to think of the circumstances where it would be the best option.

That is, until you've read this Reddit post.

The user shared her experience on the subreddit r/Confession, where people are encouraged to share their deepest secrets. She told the story about how she ghosted her boyfriend of five years.

"I came over to his house one morning to surprise him with breakfast and a video game he wanted, only to find him naked, asleep, and with his ex curled up in his arms," the post reads. "He didn't hear me come in, so I closed his bedroom door, and left his breakfast and game on the kitchen counter along with my key to his house."

Rather than wake her boyfriend up and confront him, she showed clear signs she had been there and caught him red handed. The post goes on to describe the most thorough and ruthless ghosting of all time.

"I went to my car, deactivated my Facebook, and blocked him on all other forms of social media. I then called my phone provider to change my number before driving off," she wrote. "I texted family members and close friends that we were no longer together and to block him on social media, as well. I didn't tell them why."

She also ended the lease at her apartment and started a new job in a different city later that week. In other words, there is absolutely no way this man could easily contact her again.

"I completely removed myself from him and didn't offer a shred of explanation or opportunity for dialogue," she wrote. "I disappeared from his life after his betrayal and I think it'll not only help me to focus on myself without his presence, but I think completely shutting myself off from him will hurt worse than anything when he thinks on how good he had it with me these last 5 years."

Many people have been cheated on or betrayed in relationships, and so are familiar with the feelings that it conjures up. It's incredibly hard to keep this calm and collected, and many of us probably wish we would have been able to behave the same way in hindsight.

So overall, perhaps ghosting isn't so bad after all. In extreme circumstances, it may help you move on with your life in an easier way, as long as you don't have the desire for closure.

The thread is full of supportive comments from other users, who applaud her attitude and wish her luck for the future.

"From everything I know about you so far, you are ultimate," one user wrote. "Go as far as you can and move right on past the haters, nobody who hates is anywhere close to your league.

"Find someone with a fine, powerful, noble spirit and don't settle for less. Or don't. Just be a boss yourself and let them find you."

Meanwhile, the most popular comment on the thread asks what game she left behind. It was Super Mario Odyssey.

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John Legend helping pregnant Chrissy Teigen squeeze into leggings is the best video you'll see all day

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Chrissy Teigen (L) and John Legend attend the 'Monster' Premiere during the 2018 Sundance Film Festival at Eccles Center Theatre on January 22, 2018

  • Chrissy Teigen shared a cute Snapchat video of John Legend helping her get stretchy leggings over her baby bump.
  • People on Instagram are loving the sweet moment, pointing out that Legend and Teigen truly are perfect for each other.
  • Teigen shared the final outcome of her slick, all-black outfit in a Snapchat post that followed the video.


People rarely question the love between Chrissy Teigen and John Legend. For those who do, a recent video will prove otherwise. The video — which was shared to the model's Snapchat account on Monday — shows Teigen wiggling into the spandex while Legend slides them up and over her waist. 

#chrissyteigen #johnlegend

A post shared by Chrissy Teigen Snapchat (@chrissyteigensnapchat) on Jan 22, 2018 at 12:46pm PST on

This sweet glimpse into the power couple's life has garnered a number of positive responses from fans. 

An Instagram account called @chrissyteigensnapchat shared the video, sparking a series of comments. One person wrote, "He is so adorable." Another user added, "And that is love❤️❤️❤️," while somebody else pointed out that the two are a dream team. "😂😂Those two made for eachtogher [sic] ❤," they commented.

Teigen followed the adorable Snapchat video with a photo wearing the complete look in the snow. 

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This video isn't the first time that Teigen and Legend have openly shared their strong bond through heartwarming stories.

In September 2017, the couple announced their second pregnancy in an Instagram video with their baby Luna. Teigen, acknowledging her stomach, asks Luna, "What's in here?" Without hesitation, Luna replies, "Baby." Legend then posted the happy video on Twitter.

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In another cute moment from 2017, the couple shared their almost-break-up story with their signature humor. During an interview with The Guardian, Legend recounted a time when he told his current wife that he would be happier single. Teigen, being her sassy self, simply replied "No," and the couple was back together less than an hour later.

They are truly the perfect duo. 

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